Relationships that Are Dominated by Money Usually Do Not Work

Summer has come!

It is great time for our male members to visit Japan since they have summer vacation, and many of them plan to visit Japan from July to September.

In Japan, we have several big national holidays in August and September, so the summer is also a good time for our female members to meet their correspondences.

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A Friend Relationship Does Not Exist If You Are Looking for a Lifelong Partner

When men decline having relationships with women, they think they should be polite so they say, “I would like to be your friend.”


Men believe that they are being kind to women by offering friendship, but in reality being friends creates unfortunate situations where women are still expecting men to come back to them even though the men have moved on.


If you are no longer interested in her, it would be better to clearly say “NO” to her.  You may feel guilty or feel bad in the short term, but in the long term your clear word of “NO” will encourage her to move on and find someone else. 


Some men keep women as friends, but if you are really looking for a future wife, having many girlfriends doesn’t make sense. Keeping in touch with women whom you do not really love makes trouble between you and a woman you love or you are going to love. She may feel disloyal to a you if you keep many women as friends.


If you would like to meet the right woman, say “NO” to the woman you do not feel any chemistry with and close the door firmly, and move on as soon as possible. Erase her email address, remove her as a Facebook friend,  and remove her from  your online social network. In this way you are clearly starting that you are ready for a new woman to come into your life.


It might be hard for you, but it is the best way and quickest way to find the right woman for you.


When you decline, stop making FRIEND RELATIONSHIPS and you will find your ONE and ONLY soon.

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How to Send a Gift to a Japanese Woman in Japan

I talked with one of our female members recently, and she said that she received a special gift from a man whom she is corresponding with now.

 

I asked her how he sent her his gift. And this is the company he sent his gift from.
http://www.worldflower.net/shop/index.php?site=w2

World Flower Service

 

This company is located in Tokyo, so you do not have to worry about the shipment fee. Also, they shows who grew their gift flowers. They said that they take care of their flowers with heart. Sounds great!
http://www.worldflower.net/shop/page/farm_all?site=w1

Valentine's Day is coming soon, and sending a gift would be a wonderful idea if you have been corresponding with someone to show how much you think about and care for her.

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If You Are Too Busy, Make Time for Your Relationship!

If You Are Too Busy, Make Time for Your Relationship!

I received an application for a Free Consultation from one of our female members, and she canceled it and told us to postpone.

I said OK, and we setup the appointment for her again.

Actually, it was the third time that she canceled and postponed the appointment for the Skype consultation.

And every time, she says “I am too busy.”

We would like for her to enjoy her membership to the fullest and to support her efforts of creating a wonderful relationship, however, if she is too busy to make time to even have a consultation with us, how can we possibly help her?

I am really concerned about her situation and want to help her. The question for her is how can she make time for a relationship with one of our male members? And, how will she change her busy lifestyle in order to create the time and space in her life that is necessary for a relationship and eventual marriage?

Obviously, marriage is not a simple process; it is one’s lifelong journey of creating a harmonious and fulfilling relationship which you and your partner work together. And, in a marriage you and your partner will encounter relationship issues good and bad perhaps everyday. Therefore, one must allow for the time and space in one life to be married and be fully committed to one’s partner. To have a successful relationship in a marriage, one must place the marriage at the top of one’s priority list in life. Nothing else, including work and friends, may come before one’s relationship. If it does and continues to do so, the marriage will eventually suffer and die.

If you or your partner say excuses like, “I am too busy” at every moment, and the important events between you and your partner is postponed very often, one will become more distant from one’s partner and it will be very hard to keep a strong relationship.

It is with a heavy heart that we informed her, “We are so sorry, but let's make an appointment when you are truly ready to have a relationship and marriage. Good luck on your business.”

By the way, she is a doctor who is over fifty years old and single never married. I understand it is hard to make time to think about her own happiness since she is contributing to her patients everyday.(Her profile was already removed from our member page.)

WHAT I AM GOING TO SAY NEXT IS VERY IMPORTANT!!! I really believe women and men should place a higher priority on love and marriage than on a successful career. I have seen many women who are totally focused on their career, have become very successful, and are in their late 40's or over 50's. And they come to our office and knock on the door and say, “I want to find a happy marriage, and I need your help!” I do not think it is too late, but each passing day makes it more difficult for them to find their ideal partner since most men want to meet younger women.

Think of it this way. When you are dying on your death bed, would you rather look back on life and be thankful for a successful career or would you be thankful for being in a wonderful, loving relationship with your husband or wife???!!! Life is really that simple! Whatever, we put most of our efforts into each and every day is what we become and what our lives become. So, if I spend most of my day working and thinking about my career, my life becomes a working life devoted to my job. If I spend most of my day with my partner or thinking about and totally committed to my partner, my life becomes rich with love and fulfillment with my partner that will last a lifetime. A job can end tomorrow for any reason. A devoted relationship will enrich one’s life much more than any job. However, a relationship takes daily attention or it will wilt and die like a neglected, thirsty flower forgotten by its owner.

So, I tell all my members, “Stop what you are doing right now. Take a deep breath and exhale. Say out loud that you are making a complete commitment to finding your life’s partner in this instant and nothing will change this commitment to yourself. Write this commitment in large letters on a piece of paper and attach it to your bedroom wall where you will wake up and see it every morning and before going to bed at night. Say, “I want a wonderful, loving relationship and marriage now!” out loud and to yourself many times a day. By placing this commitment to creating a fabulous relationship at the top of your to do list, you will be creating affirmative action that will make it happen. That is the secret to life!”

If you don’t act now, life will simply pass you by!!!
 

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Don’t Use Copy & Paste If You Really Want to Attract A Woman

When you initially send a contact request to our female members, you have to care about your own message.

Some people write a short and simple message, and they copy and paste it and send to as many women as possible.

I am surprised that this is very common.

At first glance, this practice may appear to be a very effective way to contact many women in a short amount of time. However, women are not stupid and they usually can tell if your message was written specifically for them with your own honest words, or if this is just another mass emailing letter. Obviously, when someone receives a mass email letter they will not read it kindly and may not reply since it is obvious that the sender does not really care about her.



“He that shoots oft at last shall hit the mark.”
This saying doesn't exist if you really would like to meet your miss right.


Women who receive your simple and short copy and pasted message can easily tell, “He sent the same message, which I have received, to other women anyway.”


So, if you find a woman whom you would like to start communicating with the best approach is to read her profile with special attention, and write to her with your own words expressing empathy or compassion in her profile.

“The words in your profile were so impressive to me!!!”

Like above, if you give her one special sentence in your first message, she will feel happy since she understands that you have read her profile completely in every detail.



And she will be interested in you and start reading your profile.
“Who is this gentleman?”

And then she and you can start a conversation.



Write to her with your own words taking time to actually think about her. It would be a lot more effective than to just copy and paste.


When your message is personal and meaningful, and speaks to her heart, it will be much more successful.


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If You Say, “I Want to Marry!” Out Loud, It Will Happen!

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A friend of mine gave me a book titled “I Am Ready to be Happy” by William Rainen written in Japanese. He is a spiritualist in Hawaii, and he is popular in Japan.




Reading this book made me feel warm and calm! Thank you!

There are some parts which relate to marriage relationships, and I was inspired.

Here is a quote from the book. It is written in Japanese, so the translation is paraphrased.

“If you wish to marry someone, when you meet someone, it is important to honestly say to him or her that I am thinking about being married in the future.”


It does not mean that you want marry him or her. He or she has a choice!


It means that I am looking for a lifelong partner and I am not playing with people. It is very important to keep telling people around you about your desire to be married.


If you are seeing someone that you are not interested in and consider just a date or a penpal, and they understand that you are serious, they would most likely not be interested in you. So, by not following this path, you and he/she do not have to waste each other's valuable time.

On the other hand, if they are also seriously looking for a lifelong partner, and they understand your intentions, the relationship might blossom. Even if they are not interested in you, their friends and relatives will learn that you are looking for a happy marriage, and the happiness might come to you through word of mouth.

When I came to the US to study I was 36 years old and most of my classmates in the ESL class were teenagers or in their early 20's. Because of the age difference I was always hanging around my teachers and professors.

Since I always told them that I would like to find a lifelong partner and live in the US, they often introduced me to their friends for me to date. Fortunately, one of my friends introduced me to a man and I had a wonderful time with him in California. Luckily for me, he is now my husband.

This book says that you can create your own life by manifesting your desires. And it is called affirmation.

It means that you can make your dreams come true by expressing your true desires to other people.


If you are looking for a Japanese woman, and you desire a “Happy Marriage”, you can start by telling people around you, and your dream will come true sooner or later.



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MJL is Teaching the Act of Hugging to Japanese Women

 
Here is the picture book that my three year old son loves.

This is really a great book to teach us that a “Hug” is very important for everyone.

Even adults will find this book’s message meaningful!

I think a “Hug” is a great communication habit that western countries should be proud of.
And I admire that many little children learn that a “Hug” is an accepted and important communication tool.

Unfortunately, in Japan, we do not have a “Hug” habit at all. People just don’t touch each other at all!

We often hear reports of male members visiting Japan for the first time to meet his date, where they try to hug or touch her skin, and she is shocked and she shows her negative emotion toward this act.

It is sad, but it happens often.

In order for Japanese women to understand about the western “Hug” habit, I always tell our female members “Don’t be shy when you meet your date, so give him a big hug!”

For Japanese People, it might take 100 years to make a “Hug” a daily habit, but I keep telling our female members’ how great hugging is for everyone. One must always be optimistic!!! Sooner or later it will catch on!!!

   

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Financial Planning Before Marriage is Important

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NEW MJL Service: Premarriage Counseling

One of our NEW unique services we are offering is Premarriage Counseling on Skype.

We have already started this service for our female Full Members on a monthly basis. In premarriage counseling sessions, we talk about the following topics.

1. Getting Started with an International Relationship
2. Relationship Before the First Meeting
3. Relationship After the First Meeting
4. Step Up to a Committed Relationship

5. How to Prepare for Relocation – Visa Preparations

6. Relationship After Marriage

7. How to Maintain a Happy Relationship

All of our counselors are one of our staff members and all of them have experience in international marriage.

Our NEW Premarriage Counseling is unique in that it provides relationship counseling specific for couples who come from different countries. This presents unique relationship issues that are counselors are trained to help you navigate confidently. Typical relationship counselors may not have experience in dealing with international relationships. And, asking your friends or parents does not make sense as they are not trained to deal with International relationship issues.

Talking with our experienced counselors really helps. Many of our female members have given us positive feedback about their experience with our Premarriage Counseling service they received. We are able to solve any issues and give them the tools to creating a committed, positive, happy, and fulfilling relationship with their partner.

We are in the process of setting up our Premarriage Counseling service for all of our Full Members. We expect to have this service available for our male members very soon. In the meantime, if you are a current Full Member of MJL and you are having problems with your partner, we invite you to contact one of our staff for assistance. We can provide you with counseling on a monthly basis.

Please remember, we are here to assist you in finding your true love and happy marriage with a Japanese woman!

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Tip: How to Ask One Question at a Time to a Japanese Woman

When you start a relationship with a Japanese woman, you may have a lot of questions about her. This is natural when starting a new relationship. The more you ask, the more you will learn about her. However, we recommend that you not ask her too many questions at one time.

I have received reports from some of our female members:
“He asked me so many questions that I feel like I am having a job interview.”
“I feel like he is investigating me and I am NOT guilty!”
“It is hard for me to read and understand his questions in English, and reply to him in a short time. As a result, I gave up communicating with him.

At the beginning of the correspondence, keeping in touch with her on a regular basis is the most important thing. Communication should be like a ping pong game, where you write to her a short message which she can easily reply to. In order to maintain the ping pong rally, please do not hit an exploding fastball which will knock her out.

This means, if you ask her 10 or more questions in one email, she may feel too overwhelmed, too much pressure, and too tedious to reply to all of the questions. So, she may not want to email you again as a result. English is not Japanese people's first language, so you may understand that it takes a lot of time for her to read your email, understand your words, and answer your questions with polite phrases.

Even though you may have many questions for her, it would be better that you ask her one question in each email. Then she will be happy to answer your one question which is easier to reply to without fear or stress. And you will feel more comfortable since you will not have to wait for her answer to your multitude of questions for 7 days. You and she will understand each other more clearly and will have a better connection with the quicker response time.

Also, it would be helpful for her to acknowledge her reply to your question in your email.
Such as, “Thank you for answering my question. I understood more about you now.”
“I have another question since I want to learn more about you.”
 Then you can ask another question when you reply to her.
 And then she is more inclined to answer your one question since when yo both are answering each other’s questions, you both feel validated, creating feelings of caring, acceptance, and understanding. This simple process allows her to feel more confident in creating a deeper relationship with you.

Asking one question at a time may be a slow, time consuming process, but it is the best way for you and her to get to know each other.

If you have started corresponding with a Japanese woman, please try this method of single question & answer conversations first. You will see that it is more helpful to create mutual trust and understanding with her first instead of giving her a storm and making her feel frustrated.

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Japanese Women Experiences True Love for First Time

In early June, one of our male clients spent 2 wonderful weeks visiting one of our female clients in Japan. He just returned home to the east coast of the US.

Miyata at our office reported as follows.

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Mr. M from Rhode Island just returned to the US.
Miss N gave me a call and said that she had a happy time with him.

She said that she had never ever experienced being treated so wonderfully.

He was so kind and gentle.
She felt his love for her, and she loves him too.

She would like to take time off from work to visit him in the US as soon as possible.

There is a direct flight between Boston and Narita, Japan.

So, she is planning her trip to the US right now.

Miyata@ TokyoOffice
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I am happy to hear that they had a wonderful time together in Japan.

The phrase,

“She experienced the most love ever in her life”,

is so impressive to me.

The key to their success is that he visited Japan to meet with only her.
Some men think it’s better to meet with more than one woman. However, from my matchmaking experience, meeting with only one female client works best for bringing their relationship level toward the next stage.

We haven't received his feedback yet, however, we are sure his feedback will be super positive with happy comments!

I am happy for their new found love!

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Japanese Women are Too Shy to Talk about Sex

Western men should be careful when talking about sex to Japanese women, because of the difference in culture between Japan and western countries.

Most of our female members feel uncomfortable when you start talking about sex with them. Especially, if you have never met her and you write about sex in an email with one of our female members. They feel that it is a kind of a sexual harassment.

I am asked by our female members many times, “What should I do.” They feel scared and pressured because most of our female members believe if they tell him, “I feel uncomfortable” or “Please stop talking like that”, they will be disliked by him. They don’t want to lose him.

As a professional matchmaker, I advise all our male clients that it would be better for them to correspond with our female clients without sexual words if you have never met her.

It creates unnecessary pressure for her. And, you might lose her before you are able to meet with her if she feels uncomfortable from your words.

After you meet with her, and continue corresponding with her, over time you will develop a deeper and more intimate relationship with her, talking about sex will become less of a taboo.

If you are care about your Japanese girlfriend, it would be better to wait for a while until she is ready to talk about sex with you.


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The Best "Will You Marry Me?"

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Solar Eclipse in Tokyo – around 7:34 am Mon., May 21, 2012 (Check for your local time!)

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In Tokyo, people are eagerly waiting to observe the millennium's first annular solar eclipse in the morning at 7:34 am on Mon., May 21st .

People can also see this spectacular astronomical show in parts of the western US coast during the evening on Sun., May 20th.

I wish I could see it in Japan!!!

Here are the places and times when this Solar Eclipse can be observed in the US. But it might not be that clear to observe since it will be evening time.

• Redding, California 5/20 18:28:36（PST）
• Reno Nevada 5/20 18:30:41（PST）
• St. George, Utah 5/20 19:34:22（MDT ）
• Albuquerque, New Mexico 5/20 19:35:49（MDT ）
• Santa Fe, New Mexico 5/20 19:34:56（MDT ）

Some men are waiting for the moment when the moon will appear between the Sun and the earth to say “Will You Marry Me?” to their girlfriends, since the eclipse appears like a marriage ring.

If you are corresponding with a Japanese woman, it would be nice to say,
“I wish I could see it with you!”
It is good to share your feeling. She might share the live broadcast on skype.

The next Solar Eclipse in Japan is on June 1st 2030 in Hokkaido; 18 years from now, and on April 8th 2312 in Tokyo; I am not alive for sure!

Since you may know this is a rare astronomical event in this century, the eclipse is a good opportunity to share how you feel with your loved one. It makes for an unforgettable memory for you and her!

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Write Her a Snail Mail Letter to Show You Care About Her

 

The introduction of the internet supposedly has made our lives easier. However, one downside of instant digital communication is the loss of the art of writing a letter and communicating one’s love for another.

When a woman receives an email a very short text message written in a business like manner, do you think you are building an emotional connection with her? Does this little email make her feel happy? Do you think she can trust you to build up a sincere relationship with her?

Do you remember the era before the internet? People used to write long hand written letters with warm hearts to someone special. It might have taken hours to write a letter. And it might have taken a week or more to reach their love. The process may have been very slow. However, your love would have felt more of an emotional connection with you when she read your heartfelt hand written letter from you than to receive just a short and heartless text message.

When you are corresponding with a woman, please try to write a hand written letter sometimes penned with your beautiful words. And, choose a beautiful and colorful stamp to make her smile. You can also write an email as if it is a hand written letter that will take months to reach her by writing your true, heartfelt emotions in the letter.

Sincere and heartfelt communication is the foundation upon which the whole relationship is built upon. So practicing effective communication is paramount for a healthy, long term relationship. 

 

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Hot Dating Tip: Don't Talk About Your Past Relationships to the Woman You are Corresponding with Now

Here is a story from one of our former members that shows how we perhaps unconsciously hold onto
past relationships and how this clinginess to the past can harm present relationships.

“It was right after we had married and I had recently moved into my husband’s house. One day, I opened the kitchen cabinet to make a cup of tea, when suddenly, a bunch of blonde hair fell down onto the kitchen counter. I was so scared because I thought someone may have been killed in this house!

My husband rushed into the kitchen and explained the blond hair to me.

“This is my ex-girlfriend's hair. I have kept it because I think it is beautiful. ”
I am thinking, but why keep the hair in the kitchen cabinet?

OK, I think it may have been beautiful for him, but it was horrible for me.

I calmly said without anger:

“It is important to let go of past experiences, and so I am asking you to let go of this hair. Please throw it out in the garbage, and please do not tell me about your past beautiful memories since I am a woman who lives with you now in the present moment.” Luckily, he understood what I told him and we have not discussed about each one's past since then.”

I am not denying his past fantastic relationships. But, I feel a good rule is to not talk about past relationships. Why? Because it is not necessary for our new married life since I am feeling happy with him now and I don’t want the past to interfere with the present.”

While this story from a former member may seem funny to some, it offers a valuable lesson. And the spouse handled the situation with her husband in a positive manner leading to stronger trust in their relationship.

Through my more than 10 years matchmaking experience, I have seen how many people tend to hold onto the memories of their past relationships. And, during early correspondence with a new date, they ask their date's past relationships. Why? Do they want to compare the person they are with now to their previous dates? Are they looking for someone who is similar or different? Do they expect him/her to be like a person they used to love? This is a fool’s idea since everyone is different and trying to recreate the past will only lead to heartache.

If you are asked about your past relationships do you feel happy? Are the conversations really exciting?

I believe it is best to say “I don’t dwell in the past. I don’t cling to the past. It is best to forget your past relationships!” Past is past. We cannot change the past. Now is now and we have the power to choose what we want to do now in the present. So, forget the past and spend your finite energy on creating a beautiful life with your current partner. Now can be the best time ever and don’t let the past mess it up.

If you really want to start a new life with someone special, it is better to focus on the person who you are dating now, who is in front of you! Pay all your attention to the person you are with now! Enjoy each moment you spend with the person you love now for soon the moment will be in the past.


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Make a Room For Her Before You Start Looking for a Japanese Wife

もし、あなたが日本人女性との結婚を真剣に考えているのであれば、女性を探し始める前に彼女が今すぐにあなたと一緒に過ごせるための部屋を用意してください。

If you are seriously thinking about marrying a Japanese woman, please setup a room for her and get your house organized for your life with her before you start looking for a Japanese wife.

メンバーの女性が初めて男性を訪ねたときに、男性の部屋が整理されていなかったり、ルームメイトがいたり、ゲストルームはあっても、将来的に彼女が自分の部屋として使えそうな部屋が無かったり、クローゼットに彼女の洋服が収まるスペースが無かったとしたら、どんなに彼女が悲しむか想像できますか？

Can you imagine how sad one of our female members would feel when she visits you to find that your room is a mess, you have a roommate, there is no room for her to live with you in the future, and/or there is no closet space for her clothes?

もちろん、あなたは、交際期間を経て、彼女と結婚するかどうか？ということを考えるから、ルームメートと暮らしていようが、後からどうにかすればよいし、後から片付ければそれで済むと思っているかもしれません。

Of course, you may say that you would make a decision if you want to marry her or not after spending time with her, so you have a plenty of time to organize your house and prepare a room for her, and it would be fine.

でも、彼女が最初にあなたを訪れた時が、彼女の将来をイメージする最初のチャンスですので、そこで、彼女が二人の将来をイメージできないようであれば、交際が進展する可能性は極めて低くなりますね。

However, the best time for you to show her how important she is to you is when she visits you for the very first time. If you make some effort to clean up your house and prepare for her visit, your clean house and thoughtfulness will shine through and she will be grateful for your effort. Conversely, if she visits and there is a big mess and no space set aside for her, she will have a hard time imagining a happy future with you, and this might make it difficult to develop a successful relationship with her.

例えば、こんなことがありました。

メンバーの女性が交際中の男性を初めて訪ねた時に、彼の家には、以前に交際していた日本人女性の持ち物、靴、などがそのまま放置してあったそうなのです。そして身なりも職業もプロフェッショナルな彼でしたが、部屋がメチャメチャだったので彼女はがっかりしたとフィードバックで伝えてくれました。

Here is an unfortunate example.
One of our female members visited a man who she was corresponding with. At his home she saw a pair of shoes and other women's belongings which she guessed to be his ex girlfriend's belongings. Although the man looked very professional on his online profile and photos, she was very disappointed by his living environment when she visited him.

帰国後、どうなったかというと、彼のことは好きだけれど、前の女性の持ち物を未だに持っている男性と今後交際する気になれないと交際をストップされました。

男性は、今でも、何故、彼女とうまくいかなかったか？という自覚はありません。

After returning to Japan, she stopped corresponding with him since she felt that there was no space for her in his mind because she saw that he still kept his ex girlfriend's stuff in his house.

あなたが日本人女性を迎える準備が整ってから、女性をあなたの家に招待してあげてください。まず、彼女のためのスペースを整えてあげてください。あなたが、彼女を一番大事な人、幸せにしてくれる男性として接してあげれば、彼女もあなたを一番大事な男性として認識するでしょう。

So, please only invite one of our Japanese female members to your house when you are truly ready for her. Please clean your house and make space for her in your house so that she feels that you are the person who can make her truly happy and you are the only one for her since you really want to make her happy.


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Warning: Facebook Users or other SNS or DATING Website Users Who Are Looking for a Japanese Wife

As people know, Facebook is the largest SNS website in the world, and it is easy to communicate with someone whom you haven't met. If you are looking for a Japanese wife, it might be a great tool for you to connect Japanese women since it is FREE and Facebook is getting more popular in Japan. However, you should be very careful about opening all of your information on your Facebook wall since Japanese women who are interested in western men also check men on Facebook.

One of our female members asked me about one of our male members whom she is corresponding with. She found him on Facebook and found that there are many Japanese women's photos on his Facebook friends’ page. She felt bad because one of his Facebook Japanese girlfriends had written on his Facebook page, and she appeared to be more than a friend. Our female member asked me if I knew who she this girlfriend is. Our member became suspicious about him and asked me if he is corresponding with any other women except her.

The man she mentioned is a gentleman. Under MJL’s membership rules, we recommend for both men and women to choose a maximum of 3 candidates to correspond with at one time. If there is no rule, people try to correspond with as many people as possible and this doesn’t usually work. Since we encourage men to come to meet Japanese women first, we understand that there are risks if a man chooses only one candidate and visits only to see her. That is why we believe that choosing a maximum of three candidates is a good number. Actually, corresponding with only one candidate at a time works well also and many past successful couples started corresponding with only one candidate.

Anyways, we are not attempting to manage anyone's life even though they belong to our membership. If they would like to meet more Japanese women, they can use the Facebook or other dating sites. However, if it is free, it usually everyone can see what you are doing on those SNS or dating websites.

I am simply recommending being cautious about what information one places on these websites as anyone can see this information. Japanese women are more sensitive than you may realize. You can say that she is just a Facebook friend, but she may not believe it. I have heard of many divorced cases (Not MJL Members!) resulting from what someone saw on Facebook. Many women easily become jealous, and once they start to be suspicious, it is not easy for them to relax since emotions can get fired up.

To avoid this kind of trouble, MJL is thinking about developing new screening and safety guidelines for their members. Stay tuned!


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Are you looking for the “PERFECT WOMAN”?

If you are looking for the “PERFECT WOMAN”, it might take time to find one.

Perhaps, too long!

If you spend more than 3 years to find a PERFECT WOMAN, it might be wiser to forget about finding “PERFECTION” in someone else. Perhaps “PERFECTION” comes from within by creating your own happy life first and then you will attract “PERFECT WOMAN” to you. If you are making efforts to become the “PERFECT MAN” for a woman, your life might be a lot easier for you.

If, after perfecting yourself, you find the “PERFECT WOMAN”, and you and she make efforts to create a great relationship with joy, happiness, and respect, and your life might be called “PERFECT”.

Regardless of whether your life or your mate is perfect or not, by being happy and grateful with yourself and whomever you are with, your life will be fine. As the saying goes, “Happiness is a state of mind.”


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Advice from My Husband

In life, many opportunities and choices will come your way.

If you don’t take them, you may regret your lost opportunities.

Life is about taking chances!

Really think about what you want in life.

What are your dreams?

Believe and live them and they will come true.

Listen to yourself, to your heart, and not anyone else, for only you can know what you want.

This is advice from my husband, and I really appreciate him sharing it with me. I found it very encouraging.

Watching how I am helping men and women who are seeking their life partner, my husband always give me his opinions from a western man’s point of view.

I always appreciate his opinion!

Naoko

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