Make a Room For Her Before You Start Looking for a Japanese Wife

もし、あなたが日本人女性との結婚を真剣に考えているのであれば、女性を探し始める前に彼女が今すぐにあなたと一緒に過ごせるための部屋を用意してください。

If you are seriously thinking about marrying a Japanese woman, please setup a room for her and get your house organized for your life with her before you start looking for a Japanese wife.

メンバーの女性が初めて男性を訪ねたときに、男性の部屋が整理されていなかったり、ルームメイトがいたり、ゲストルームはあっても、将来的に彼女が自分の部屋として使えそうな部屋が無かったり、クローゼットに彼女の洋服が収まるスペースが無かったとしたら、どんなに彼女が悲しむか想像できますか？

Can you imagine how sad one of our female members would feel when she visits you to find that your room is a mess, you have a roommate, there is no room for her to live with you in the future, and/or there is no closet space for her clothes?

もちろん、あなたは、交際期間を経て、彼女と結婚するかどうか？ということを考えるから、ルームメートと暮らしていようが、後からどうにかすればよいし、後から片付ければそれで済むと思っているかもしれません。

Of course, you may say that you would make a decision if you want to marry her or not after spending time with her, so you have a plenty of time to organize your house and prepare a room for her, and it would be fine.

でも、彼女が最初にあなたを訪れた時が、彼女の将来をイメージする最初のチャンスですので、そこで、彼女が二人の将来をイメージできないようであれば、交際が進展する可能性は極めて低くなりますね。

However, the best time for you to show her how important she is to you is when she visits you for the very first time. If you make some effort to clean up your house and prepare for her visit, your clean house and thoughtfulness will shine through and she will be grateful for your effort. Conversely, if she visits and there is a big mess and no space set aside for her, she will have a hard time imagining a happy future with you, and this might make it difficult to develop a successful relationship with her.

例えば、こんなことがありました。

メンバーの女性が交際中の男性を初めて訪ねた時に、彼の家には、以前に交際していた日本人女性の持ち物、靴、などがそのまま放置してあったそうなのです。そして身なりも職業もプロフェッショナルな彼でしたが、部屋がメチャメチャだったので彼女はがっかりしたとフィードバックで伝えてくれました。

Here is an unfortunate example.
One of our female members visited a man who she was corresponding with. At his home she saw a pair of shoes and other women's belongings which she guessed to be his ex girlfriend's belongings. Although the man looked very professional on his online profile and photos, she was very disappointed by his living environment when she visited him.

帰国後、どうなったかというと、彼のことは好きだけれど、前の女性の持ち物を未だに持っている男性と今後交際する気になれないと交際をストップされました。

男性は、今でも、何故、彼女とうまくいかなかったか？という自覚はありません。

After returning to Japan, she stopped corresponding with him since she felt that there was no space for her in his mind because she saw that he still kept his ex girlfriend's stuff in his house.

あなたが日本人女性を迎える準備が整ってから、女性をあなたの家に招待してあげてください。まず、彼女のためのスペースを整えてあげてください。あなたが、彼女を一番大事な人、幸せにしてくれる男性として接してあげれば、彼女もあなたを一番大事な男性として認識するでしょう。

So, please only invite one of our Japanese female members to your house when you are truly ready for her. Please clean your house and make space for her in your house so that she feels that you are the person who can make her truly happy and you are the only one for her since you really want to make her happy.


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