March 10, 2010
White Day
Every February 14th is one of the best, and sometimes not the best, day for a lot of people in the States. Of course we all know it as Valentine's Day. But here in Japan there is another holiday that is a reciprocate of Valentine's Day, and it is exactly one month later, on March 14th. It's called White Day. This will be the first time for a lot of people to read about White Day, but here in Japan it is everywhere, from the smallest convenience store to the most luxurious stores in Shinjuku.
In 1977, the confectionery company Ishimura Manseido, decided to start a new and very unique campaign towards the men of Japan, Marshmallow Day (マシュマロデー). This small attempt to sell more of their products to the public, would be the beginning to a very unique and now integral part of Japanese culture. Before it was even a year old in 1978, Marshmallow Day would be forever changed to White Day. And if your planning to marry a Japanese woman, this is possibly an important day to remember.
The National Confectionery Industry Association (全国飴菓子工業協同組合) in 1978, decided that Marshmallow Day could be so much more. So they set out to make a new “holiday” to be celebrated by all in Japan. The idea behind this new holiday was pretty simple, it would be the opposite of Valentine's Day. So it would be a day that men would give women gifts in response for the women giving them gifts for Valentine's Day. And, the original gifts to be given for this day were, of course, Marshmallows. So the name of this new day was changed to, White Day, for it is the color of Marshmallows. On March 14th 1978, the first ever White Day was celebrated and has been growing ever since.
This holiday has become integrated enough into Japanese culture to be marked on Japanese calendars, just like Valentine's Day is marked on American Calendars. Now at first glance this looks like another special day for men and women to really express their love to each other, just like Valentine's Day. It is and it isn't. The gifts received by men from women on Valentine's Day, may or may not be with romantic intentions. This applies to all ages, from the teenage years well into adulthood. There are usually just two different intentions behind the gift giving of Valentine's Day and White Day.
The first intention is, of course the most obvious, romantic. If a woman gives a man an expensive gift on February 14th, it is most likely with romantic intentions. And, the gifts are usually given anonymously, with the hopes that the man will figure out who sent him or left him the gift. But, a woman can also give an inexpensive gift on the same day, for a less obvious reason. This second reason is out of respect, or even as an obligation, because it is given to a co-worker, supervisor, or between best friends. So the man who receives one or more gifts needs to be able to do two things with them. One, figure out who sent you which gift (may not be as difficult as it seems) and second, decide what kind of message to send in return on White Day to the woman (or women) who sent him the gifts. Do you reciprocate the same feelings or will you just send a friend type gift ?
This exchange of gifts on Valentine's Day and White Day smooths relationships between coworkers and friends, giving an entertaining break from their busy and stressful jobs. This intent is understood and accepted in the Japanese workplace between employees and supervisors.
Originally as mentioned before White Day gifts were marketed as Marshmallows. But as the day has evolved, so has the gifts. Marshmallows can still be given, but chocolate is the number one gift given. Chocolates given with the intention of romance or love are called, honmei-choco (本命チョコ, "chocolate of love"). Chocolates given without the intention of romance are called, giri-choco (義理チョコ, "courtesy chocolate"). It's the price that separates these two intentions. Other gifts given are flowers, different types of specially wrapped candies, cookies, jewelery, white chocolate, or even white lingerie. Sometimes the term sanbai gaeshi (三倍返し, "thrice the return") is used to describe the general rule of thumb that the return gifts on White Day should be two to three times the cost of the Valentine's gift. Any of these gifts can be given as White Day gifts with either intentions. Even the lingerie can be given as an obligation gift and even in the workplace. Which would probably never be accepted in the States.
Now let's say, you have married your new Japanese wife and your living in the States while your reading this, and your thinking this doesn't apply to my relationship. You maybe right, and let's be honest ,this isn't even a real holiday. And is only celebrated in Asia. But to celebrate it in the States with your Japanese wife, shows more about your character to your wife than you might realize. First, any day of the year you can buy her a gift, whether it's expensive or not doesn't matter. “It's the thought that counts,” is a really true in any relationship in any culture. But to do it on a day that is special to her culture, and that has no significance to yours, shows that you care about not just her but you respect her culture. Just because a Japanese woman marries you and moves to the States, doesn't mean she is going to give up her identity. I know White Day isn't the most significant day over here to everyone but remembering the smaller and less significant aspects of her culture, will mean just as much and if not more, than just remembering something like her birthday.
So whether it's remembering White Day, or any other special day that is celebrated here and not in your country, is a simple but very powerful way of showing respect and love to the woman you have married or are going to marry.
HAPPY WHITE DAY!!!!
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February 28, 2010
The First Meet-up
My name is Chris, I'm 37 years old, and I have lived in Japan for three years. During my time in Japan I have had some pretty bad luck trying to find a wife, or even a girlfriend, here in Japan. I have met a lot of women through my work and through friends, but nothing has ever developed between myself and a new acquaintance . I have tried everything from multiple dating sites, going to singles parties, and I have spent a lot of time in bars and clubs. For multiple reasons I have just not been able to meet a woman who desires the same future as I do.
Recently while searching on the internet I had discovered a small, but growing company, Meet Japan Lady. So after reviewing their website and the information provided, I signed up as a trial member. One of their best selling points for myself was that they personally interviewed every member, to make sure that they were very serious about getting married. This really impressed me that their was a company that cared enough about their clients to screen out anyone who might not have the correct intentions and feelings. Then I received an email about joining the company on their Meetup.com group page, which was announcing that they were having a meeting of clients who lived in Japan at their Tokyo office. So I sent in my RSVP, and on January 23rd, I headed to Tokyo for my first meeting with other Meet Japan Lady clients.
So I traveled for over 2 hours by train to Tokyo, before arriving at the meeting location. Since the meeting was scheduled a couple of weeks prior to Valentines Day, I had gotten up early, and made Valentines gifts of individual boxes of chocolate with flowers tied to them with silk ribbons. I had made about 20 of them, which was perfect because in the end there were almost as many people who showed up. I was the first member to arrive and for about 5 minutes I was by myself. The room was small and the white painted walls were pretty bare, except for a couple of posters and a clock. Down the center of the room there were some tables with names taped in front of the seats, one table off to the side, a white board, and a small office sofa. I took this time to lay out a box of chocolate in front of each seat and put the extras on the side table. As I finished, three female members walked in, and we started to introduce ourselves.
Slowly people started to arrive, carrying with them different snacks and drinks to share with everyone. Naoko arrived with her husband and some more members, as she said some quick greetings to some of the members. She asked everyone to please feel free to help themselves to the food and drinks everyone had brought, including some refreshments she had supplied. Everyone put together plates of snack foods and poured themselves some refreshments. Once everyone was settled in their chairs, Naoko started the meeting.
Naoko introduced herself, her husband Roland, Mr. Miyata (who runs the Tokyo office), and gave a brief introduction of her company and the services they supply. Her husband Roland then introduced himself, how he and Naoko had met, and shared some of their life after marriage (including a new baby). After Roland had finished, some questions were asked, and then all of the members started to introduce themselves. Each member shared their basic information, their current situation, what they were looking for in a potential spouse, and the future they would like to share with their new spouse. As each member finished, Naoko would always ask if anyone had any questions. Other members always asked questions, including Naoko. This continued until every member had a chance to share themselves with the group, then questions were asked and answered. There were even a couple of members who were actually well into the processes of meeting their potential spouse, and were very helpful by sharing their personal experiences with the services provided. Naoko then finished the meeting off with some more helpful information to help each member. After she was done sharing her useful information, the meeting was finished. So everyone helped to clean up, and then we were given the chance to mingle for a little while. Then, slowly people started to leave.
I attended this meeting as a trial member and I didn't know what to expect. I was pretty nervous because of my track record with meeting women here in Japan. I was also nervous about what others would think and say about my feelings towards my own personal experiences and my thoughts on the cultural differences. And, when I first walked into the small meeting room, I thought it wasn't quite the right setting for people to be sharing such personal feelings and dreams. But all of those first impressions and my personal feelings had changed by the end of the meeting.
They had been changed because of many reasons but most of all from the way the company is run by Naoko. From the very beginning you could tell she really cared about every member, and she really is concerned that members meet a spouse that will be able to take care of them and truly love them. To call this a company makes it sounds like it might be another cold and unfeeling marriage arrangement company, but it is not. It's very comforting that when you have questions and concerns, she is always there to help and answer questions. Since she personally interviews the members, you can rest assured that you are only going to be introduced to like minded women. This is not a dating service, where members are looking for just casual relationships or just rich husbands. The personal touches that her service provides, I have found to be unmatched by other agencies and dating sites.
I had traveled a long way and spent a lot of money on gifts for people I didn't even know, but I would do it all over again if it meant I would have the same experiences as I did with this first meeting. I found the meeting to be very helpful and encouraging. I learned a lot from the other members, including what to expect from a Japanese wife, their expectations from a foreign husband, and many other cultural differences. And during the meeting I could see the other members were just as nervous as I was, but everyone was so kind and caring towards each other, that by the end of the meeting everyone, had a very good, positive, and rewarding experience. Everyone walked out with a smile on their face and the assurance that we are in good hands with Naoko and her services. I honestly can't wait until there is another meeting and I'm very grateful to have found this company.
Meet Japan Lady.com
Personalized Marriage Introduction Service for Professional American Men
http://meetjapanlady.com/
Singles Meetup in Baltimore
Singles Meetup in Los Angeles
SIngles Meetup in Tokyo
Recently while searching on the internet I had discovered a small, but growing company, Meet Japan Lady. So after reviewing their website and the information provided, I signed up as a trial member. One of their best selling points for myself was that they personally interviewed every member, to make sure that they were very serious about getting married. This really impressed me that their was a company that cared enough about their clients to screen out anyone who might not have the correct intentions and feelings. Then I received an email about joining the company on their Meetup.com group page, which was announcing that they were having a meeting of clients who lived in Japan at their Tokyo office. So I sent in my RSVP, and on January 23rd, I headed to Tokyo for my first meeting with other Meet Japan Lady clients.
So I traveled for over 2 hours by train to Tokyo, before arriving at the meeting location. Since the meeting was scheduled a couple of weeks prior to Valentines Day, I had gotten up early, and made Valentines gifts of individual boxes of chocolate with flowers tied to them with silk ribbons. I had made about 20 of them, which was perfect because in the end there were almost as many people who showed up. I was the first member to arrive and for about 5 minutes I was by myself. The room was small and the white painted walls were pretty bare, except for a couple of posters and a clock. Down the center of the room there were some tables with names taped in front of the seats, one table off to the side, a white board, and a small office sofa. I took this time to lay out a box of chocolate in front of each seat and put the extras on the side table. As I finished, three female members walked in, and we started to introduce ourselves.
Slowly people started to arrive, carrying with them different snacks and drinks to share with everyone. Naoko arrived with her husband and some more members, as she said some quick greetings to some of the members. She asked everyone to please feel free to help themselves to the food and drinks everyone had brought, including some refreshments she had supplied. Everyone put together plates of snack foods and poured themselves some refreshments. Once everyone was settled in their chairs, Naoko started the meeting.
Naoko introduced herself, her husband Roland, Mr. Miyata (who runs the Tokyo office), and gave a brief introduction of her company and the services they supply. Her husband Roland then introduced himself, how he and Naoko had met, and shared some of their life after marriage (including a new baby). After Roland had finished, some questions were asked, and then all of the members started to introduce themselves. Each member shared their basic information, their current situation, what they were looking for in a potential spouse, and the future they would like to share with their new spouse. As each member finished, Naoko would always ask if anyone had any questions. Other members always asked questions, including Naoko. This continued until every member had a chance to share themselves with the group, then questions were asked and answered. There were even a couple of members who were actually well into the processes of meeting their potential spouse, and were very helpful by sharing their personal experiences with the services provided. Naoko then finished the meeting off with some more helpful information to help each member. After she was done sharing her useful information, the meeting was finished. So everyone helped to clean up, and then we were given the chance to mingle for a little while. Then, slowly people started to leave.
I attended this meeting as a trial member and I didn't know what to expect. I was pretty nervous because of my track record with meeting women here in Japan. I was also nervous about what others would think and say about my feelings towards my own personal experiences and my thoughts on the cultural differences. And, when I first walked into the small meeting room, I thought it wasn't quite the right setting for people to be sharing such personal feelings and dreams. But all of those first impressions and my personal feelings had changed by the end of the meeting.
They had been changed because of many reasons but most of all from the way the company is run by Naoko. From the very beginning you could tell she really cared about every member, and she really is concerned that members meet a spouse that will be able to take care of them and truly love them. To call this a company makes it sounds like it might be another cold and unfeeling marriage arrangement company, but it is not. It's very comforting that when you have questions and concerns, she is always there to help and answer questions. Since she personally interviews the members, you can rest assured that you are only going to be introduced to like minded women. This is not a dating service, where members are looking for just casual relationships or just rich husbands. The personal touches that her service provides, I have found to be unmatched by other agencies and dating sites.
I had traveled a long way and spent a lot of money on gifts for people I didn't even know, but I would do it all over again if it meant I would have the same experiences as I did with this first meeting. I found the meeting to be very helpful and encouraging. I learned a lot from the other members, including what to expect from a Japanese wife, their expectations from a foreign husband, and many other cultural differences. And during the meeting I could see the other members were just as nervous as I was, but everyone was so kind and caring towards each other, that by the end of the meeting everyone, had a very good, positive, and rewarding experience. Everyone walked out with a smile on their face and the assurance that we are in good hands with Naoko and her services. I honestly can't wait until there is another meeting and I'm very grateful to have found this company.
Meet Japan Lady.com
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http://meetjapanlady.com/
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February 23, 2010
Do You Want to Be On TV???
Hello Male Members,
Two TV production companies contacted us last week, one is in Japan and the other is in Chicago. They are looking for couples who want to share their marriage stories on TV ASAP.
Here is the description from the company Chicago. I will send you the producer’s contact if you are interested. (MJL members only.)
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Hello Naoko,
Pleasure speaking with you. Again, I work in development at Towers Productions in Chicago. The company was founded in 1989, and has produced over one thousand hours of factual and entertainment programming for US and international television networks including A&E, Animal Planet, bio. - The Biography Channel, CNN, Discovery Channel, History, ID: Investigation Discovery, Lifetime, MSNBC, NBC, National Geographic Channel, PBS, TLC, Travel Channel, tru TV, VERSUS, WGN and The Weather Channel. Among the Company’s signature series are American Justice and Biography (A&E), The Final Report (National Geographic Channel), Storm Stories (The Weather Channel) and the syndicated comedy series Sports Action Team.
We are developing a television special documenting arranged marriage for a major cable network. We are looking for people who are currently in the matching process or have been married and are willing to share their experience. We want to educate viewers on all aspects of the tradition and incorporate all types of backgrounds. We are looking to tell the stories from the point of view of the
participants. The more variety, the better!
Anyone interested should please email with your name, age, contact info, state/country you live in, and tell us a bit about your experience with arranged marriage (if you are currently in the matching process, how far along are you?). Please attach a recent photo if possible. There is no commitment at this time, this is just a chance for us to get to know a bit about you.
Please feel free to pass along my info to anyone with an interesting story to share. Thanks so much for your time and have a wonderful day.
Casting Director
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The description from Japan is written in Japanese, but I will send you the producer’s contact if you are interested. (MJL members only.)
Thank you for your help!
Baltimore: http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/
LA: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-LA-Meet-Japan-Lady/
Tokyo: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-Tokyo-Meet-Japan-Lady-MeetUp/
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February 20, 2010
MEETUP in TOKYO – Feedback from a Lady
MJL’s Meetup in TOKYO was held on SAT JAN 23 2010 at our Tokyo office. 10 of our female members and 2 male guests attended. Thank you all who attended! We enjoyed the discussion style meetup we had. Discussion style meetup is greater than speed dating or party style if you want to understand one’s personality deeply in a short time. Japanese women are not used to speaking up, so this discussion style format allowed them to feel comfortable enough to express their thoughts openly. MJL’s meetup is also a great opportunity show their language level and communication skill in a short time. One of the male attendees brought a small gift chocolate with a tulip flower on each box. It was a pretty gift for everyone. Our ladies liked his sensitive personality, and he was asked by some of our female members to start corresponding with him after the meetup! WOW! MJL Meetup really works!!!The following message is from one of out female members. She attended our meetup in Baltimore last summer, and she is planning to join our meetup in Los Angeles this summer. She is corresponding with one of our male members, and she is positive about her future.
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Dear Naoko san,
Thank you very much for holding a meetup in Tokyo. It was a great opportunity for me to exchange ideas about international relationships with other members.
I really enjoyed the conversation we had there.
Since Japanese women tend to be a little bit shy at first, I felt that the meetup started in a rather quiet atmosphere. The good thing was that both of the male members who attended at the meet up had already lived in Japan for a while and were familiar with how Japanese women tend to act at the first meeting.
I thought that they were very good at leading the meeting in more relaxed atmosphere. They broke the ice very smoothly!
It was also very impressive that they often encouraged the female members to speak out more freely. There was one female member who was to visit her boyfriend in the States in a few weeks. She was communicating with her boyfriend every day using Skype for the present. What she told us was that she sometimes feels a little bit of stress when she cannot express her feeling well in English. The advice from the male members was to feel free to speak out and let
the boyfriend try to understand. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes.
I agree with them!
It’s OK to make mistakes, since English is not our first language. What is more important is that your partner should try to understand you even if your English is not perfect. If you don’t say anything, there’s no way that your boyfriend understand you, right? So I think it was a great suggestion from the male members that female members should speak out more freely when they communicate with their foreign partners.
In my opinion, men need some effort too if they want to succeed in an international relationship. They have to be understanding and patient when they communicate with Japanese women need to understand that expressing feelings in foreign language is sometimes very difficult and challenging. They have to be aware that there also might be a cultural difference in the way of expression.
I think being a good listener is the key to success for men. Luckily my boyfriend is a great listener and he’s also very very patient! He can wait forever until I come up with a word I wanted to say. Even if I cannot find the best way to express my feeling in English, he is good at guessing what I’m trying to say. I realized that Naoko san’s husband is also a good listener.
I like it when men create a comfortable environment and encourage women to speak their mind.
Effective communication is the key to all relationship, and communication shouldn’t be a one-way thing. I think that mutual understanding is very important especially in an international relationship.
MJL’s Meetup is a great chance to exchange ideas about learning effective communication. I recommend MJL members to experience this meetup to get hints for better communication. And I hope that the experience leads them to either a start of new relationships or continuous happy relationships!
Again, thank you so much for the meetup.Please take care and hope to see you sometime again in the future!
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January 13, 2010
Announcing Singles Meetup in Tokyo
We will have a Meetup in Tokyo soon!
Please signup from here http://meetjapanlady.com/meetup_form.htm if you are interested in attending our Tokyo Meetup.
Don't miss this exciting event!
Date: Jan 23 2010 Sat
Place : Meet Japan Lady Tokyo Office
We will send you detailed info after you signed up.
Who may attend? :
This exclusive opportunity is open to anyone who is a FULL MEMBER of MJL, and who has already made their own profile on Meet Japan Lady's website is welcome!
If you haven't made your own profile yet:
Please send your BEST photos of yourself to MJL.
You may send your photos by replying to this email with your photos attached.
About photos(link)
http://meetjapanlady.com/faq006.htm
Who will attend? :
On the next newsletter, we will announce our female members who will attend the Meetup in Tokyo. Some of new ladies have already signed up.
What will happen and why you should attend?
This is an awesome opportunity to meet some of our finest female members in person at one time! And then:
1) We introduce each other.
2) We talk, talk, and talk about many cultural differenct issues.
3) You can communicate with our female members in person in this friendly atmosphere.
4) You can experience how our marriage introduction service works.
5) The founder and CEO of Meet Japan lady, Naoko, and her American husband, Roland, will attend the Meetup in Tokyo this time, so you can ask any questions about our system and also you can ask Roland how a Japanese wife is wonderful!
6) MJL cofounder, Miyata, who interviews our female members at our Tokyo office also will attend. If he meets with you in person, he can introduce you to ladies when they come to the office for an interview.
7) All of our female members are marriage minded, so joining our meetup is a great opportunity to start relationships with our beautiful Japanese women. You can ask them out on dates as well.
We have been holding MJL Meetups in Baltimore, Los Angeles, and Tokyo since 2007, and many members who attended started a relationship at the Meetup and later got married. We believe that our Meetups really work well!
If you are not able to attend the Meetup in Tokyo this time, we can arrange individual meetings with our female members at our Tokyo office at your convenience. Please let us know when you plan to visit Japan at least 2 month before your trip so that we may plan accordingly.
Also, in order to provide a better experience for everyone, we are having fewer Meetups this year. Here is our schedule:
May 1 SAT in Baltimore
June in Los Angeles (We will announce the date and time soon.)
September 19 SUN in Baltimore
I look forward to meeting you at our Meetups in 2010!
Naoko
CEO, Founder Meet Japan Lady
http://MeetJapanLady.com
Baltimore: http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/
LA: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-LA-Meet-Japan-Lady/
Tokyo: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-Tokyo-Meet-Japan-Lady-MeetUp/
Meet Japan Lady.com
Personalized Marriage Introduction Service
for Professional American Men
http://MeetJapanLady.com
Please signup from here http://meetjapanlady.com/meetup_form.htm if you are interested in attending our Tokyo Meetup.
Don't miss this exciting event!
Date: Jan 23 2010 Sat
Place : Meet Japan Lady Tokyo Office
We will send you detailed info after you signed up.
Who may attend? :
This exclusive opportunity is open to anyone who is a FULL MEMBER of MJL, and who has already made their own profile on Meet Japan Lady's website is welcome!
If you haven't made your own profile yet:
Please send your BEST photos of yourself to MJL.
You may send your photos by replying to this email with your photos attached.
About photos(link)
http://meetjapanlady.com/faq006.htm
Who will attend? :
On the next newsletter, we will announce our female members who will attend the Meetup in Tokyo. Some of new ladies have already signed up.
What will happen and why you should attend?
This is an awesome opportunity to meet some of our finest female members in person at one time! And then:
1) We introduce each other.
2) We talk, talk, and talk about many cultural differenct issues.
3) You can communicate with our female members in person in this friendly atmosphere.
4) You can experience how our marriage introduction service works.
5) The founder and CEO of Meet Japan lady, Naoko, and her American husband, Roland, will attend the Meetup in Tokyo this time, so you can ask any questions about our system and also you can ask Roland how a Japanese wife is wonderful!
6) MJL cofounder, Miyata, who interviews our female members at our Tokyo office also will attend. If he meets with you in person, he can introduce you to ladies when they come to the office for an interview.
7) All of our female members are marriage minded, so joining our meetup is a great opportunity to start relationships with our beautiful Japanese women. You can ask them out on dates as well.
We have been holding MJL Meetups in Baltimore, Los Angeles, and Tokyo since 2007, and many members who attended started a relationship at the Meetup and later got married. We believe that our Meetups really work well!
If you are not able to attend the Meetup in Tokyo this time, we can arrange individual meetings with our female members at our Tokyo office at your convenience. Please let us know when you plan to visit Japan at least 2 month before your trip so that we may plan accordingly.
Also, in order to provide a better experience for everyone, we are having fewer Meetups this year. Here is our schedule:
May 1 SAT in Baltimore
June in Los Angeles (We will announce the date and time soon.)
September 19 SUN in Baltimore
I look forward to meeting you at our Meetups in 2010!
Naoko
CEO, Founder Meet Japan Lady
http://MeetJapanLady.com
Baltimore: http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/
LA: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-LA-Meet-Japan-Lady/
Tokyo: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-Tokyo-Meet-Japan-Lady-MeetUp/
Meet Japan Lady.com
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for Professional American Men
http://MeetJapanLady.com
December 25, 2009
Difficulty for Japanese Women Traveling into the US
I would like to inform our male members that it is much easier for them to travel to Japan than it is for our female members to travel into the US. For some reason, US immigration is very restrictive about Single Japanese women traveling into the US, and many are interrogated harshly and/or denied entry. Since this is a possible occurrence for our female members, we ask our male members to take this into consideration and elect to travel to Japan to visit our female members. This has the added bonus that our male members will get a better understanding and appreciation of Japanese culture, a closer connection to our female members, and is the easiest option for everyone.
Here is a scary account of entering the US from one of our female members.
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Every time I travel to the US, going through immigration is the worst part of the trip. It is frustrating and process sometimes seems to kill the souls of those behind the counter no matter which country they are in. Standing in line (the immigration line for non-residents is beyond belief), waiting with many other non-residents, and dealing with the clerk, who looked like they had never smiled in their entire life, looked at me like I was a murderer trying to ask for a knife. (I do not think that my Passport picture look like I where shoved up against a wall for a mug shot though.)
This sounds like an unbelievable story, but it happened to me. I was not detained and interrogated by US Immigration when I arrived in the U.S. two years ago for visiting my girlfriend, but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. It appears that the immigration people simply did not believe that I was visiting my girlfriend. This is insane. They took me to the other room (not including a humiliating strip search. Phew.) asking me if I really was visiting my boyfriend. Which I understand could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. I assured immigration people I had no intention of doing so. Hey! I was visiting my girlfriend! Really! I know that they are trained to spot certain behaviors that may be suspicious. But I was completely innocent ( like I said, I really was visiting my girlfriend...not boyfriend. Well I wish... but I have no luck with that though.) and just have a lot of worries on my mind I guess. And you know if you make them feel that you are very nervous they will become suspicious. Immigration officers was very interested in questioning me with several additional options such as ‘How did you meet this friend? ', 'What is your occupation?', 'What do you do for XYZ company?', ‘What is your position?’, and ‘what town do you live in?' etc... Honestly though, I felt angry though. I am not a drug trafficker or intend to commit a crime. However; Immigration officers have the power to deny you entry to a country, so I kept being honest but be straight and to the point. I would not say that this appears to be disgraceful behavior on their part, because immigration officers play an important role in international security...but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though.
And there is another story... This time, I was asked to get my luggage and 'go to that room' after trying to get through at customs when I visited another friend in the U.S. The guy in there was very brisk and unfriendly( I know they just doing their job but still... you know) and immediately took to a thorough search of my luggage (including my very personal belonging too) and lots of questions about the purpose of my visit. I do not remember the details very clearly, and the details aren't yet clear on exactly why I was asked to get my luggage and I do not know why it went down. The guy at the desk asked what the real purpose of my visit was, and I told him I was on holidays and I was visiting my friend. He also asked how long I intended to stay, and I told him 8 days. He said I can not stay longer than 90 days, I told him I knew that and would not. He asked how much money I had with me. He also asked some other questions, but I don't remember them. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though-- having re-packed my luggage myself, of course.
Every single time when I go through U.S. immigration... I would have to have a lot of worries on my mind. It may help to show that I have a job, savings, family back in Japan which proves that I have ties requiring me to go home and honesty is usually the best policy? But telling customs I'm here for visiting my boyfriend is almost definitely a bad idea. This could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. So the best course is to say I am merely visiting a friend, and leave out all the romantic stuff? But at the same time, I would think is lying to customs like this likely to get me in trouble somewhere down the line? Can they check up on this stuff? Do not ever lie to immigration. I should to be clear on how honest I should be about this. But maybe don't lie, but be having a decent story straight and stick to it? During the questioning obviously do not lie but never volunteer extra information? Just answer the basic question? Simply say I am visiting a friend? If they want more details by asking more questions then just answer them as they come? I believe that I do not have to the official everything about my life? etc...
So, I hope you now have some ideas of going through immigration can be very frustrating for Japanese travelers arriving in the US. Especially single woman can stand out repeatedly. Really. There is not much you can do about it. If your lady decides to say that she is visiting a friend, it can be nice for her to have someone that they can call to corroborate her story. I have no idea what sort of information they store, but it seems likely to me that they're going to ask something about her boyfriend(could be you), or be suspicious that she is now returning to the same area, but this time visiting a ' friend '.
Please, always remember for your beautiful Japanese lady, that Immigration officers have the power to deny her entry to your country, and they can ask for the phone number of her boyfriend (could be you) and call him (could be you) to corroborate her story. Additionally please keep in mind for your lady that U.S. immigration laws are changing constantly.
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Here is a scary account of entering the US from one of our female members.
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Every time I travel to the US, going through immigration is the worst part of the trip. It is frustrating and process sometimes seems to kill the souls of those behind the counter no matter which country they are in. Standing in line (the immigration line for non-residents is beyond belief), waiting with many other non-residents, and dealing with the clerk, who looked like they had never smiled in their entire life, looked at me like I was a murderer trying to ask for a knife. (I do not think that my Passport picture look like I where shoved up against a wall for a mug shot though.)
This sounds like an unbelievable story, but it happened to me. I was not detained and interrogated by US Immigration when I arrived in the U.S. two years ago for visiting my girlfriend, but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. It appears that the immigration people simply did not believe that I was visiting my girlfriend. This is insane. They took me to the other room (not including a humiliating strip search. Phew.) asking me if I really was visiting my boyfriend. Which I understand could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. I assured immigration people I had no intention of doing so. Hey! I was visiting my girlfriend! Really! I know that they are trained to spot certain behaviors that may be suspicious. But I was completely innocent ( like I said, I really was visiting my girlfriend...not boyfriend. Well I wish... but I have no luck with that though.) and just have a lot of worries on my mind I guess. And you know if you make them feel that you are very nervous they will become suspicious. Immigration officers was very interested in questioning me with several additional options such as ‘How did you meet this friend? ', 'What is your occupation?', 'What do you do for XYZ company?', ‘What is your position?’, and ‘what town do you live in?' etc... Honestly though, I felt angry though. I am not a drug trafficker or intend to commit a crime. However; Immigration officers have the power to deny you entry to a country, so I kept being honest but be straight and to the point. I would not say that this appears to be disgraceful behavior on their part, because immigration officers play an important role in international security...but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though.
And there is another story... This time, I was asked to get my luggage and 'go to that room' after trying to get through at customs when I visited another friend in the U.S. The guy in there was very brisk and unfriendly( I know they just doing their job but still... you know) and immediately took to a thorough search of my luggage (including my very personal belonging too) and lots of questions about the purpose of my visit. I do not remember the details very clearly, and the details aren't yet clear on exactly why I was asked to get my luggage and I do not know why it went down. The guy at the desk asked what the real purpose of my visit was, and I told him I was on holidays and I was visiting my friend. He also asked how long I intended to stay, and I told him 8 days. He said I can not stay longer than 90 days, I told him I knew that and would not. He asked how much money I had with me. He also asked some other questions, but I don't remember them. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though-- having re-packed my luggage myself, of course.
Every single time when I go through U.S. immigration... I would have to have a lot of worries on my mind. It may help to show that I have a job, savings, family back in Japan which proves that I have ties requiring me to go home and honesty is usually the best policy? But telling customs I'm here for visiting my boyfriend is almost definitely a bad idea. This could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. So the best course is to say I am merely visiting a friend, and leave out all the romantic stuff? But at the same time, I would think is lying to customs like this likely to get me in trouble somewhere down the line? Can they check up on this stuff? Do not ever lie to immigration. I should to be clear on how honest I should be about this. But maybe don't lie, but be having a decent story straight and stick to it? During the questioning obviously do not lie but never volunteer extra information? Just answer the basic question? Simply say I am visiting a friend? If they want more details by asking more questions then just answer them as they come? I believe that I do not have to the official everything about my life? etc...
So, I hope you now have some ideas of going through immigration can be very frustrating for Japanese travelers arriving in the US. Especially single woman can stand out repeatedly. Really. There is not much you can do about it. If your lady decides to say that she is visiting a friend, it can be nice for her to have someone that they can call to corroborate her story. I have no idea what sort of information they store, but it seems likely to me that they're going to ask something about her boyfriend(could be you), or be suspicious that she is now returning to the same area, but this time visiting a ' friend '.
Please, always remember for your beautiful Japanese lady, that Immigration officers have the power to deny her entry to your country, and they can ask for the phone number of her boyfriend (could be you) and call him (could be you) to corroborate her story. Additionally please keep in mind for your lady that U.S. immigration laws are changing constantly.
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December 04, 2009
They’re engaged!
I received a message from one of our male members who is Canadian, that he got engaged to one of our female members (#F17146) last month!
This is great news! Congratulations to both of you! I am happy for you both!!!
I would like to share his happiness with everyone, so as to encourage all of our male members. You can also be the next happily engaged man if you follow MJL’s recommendations found on our website and you are completely open and honest with us, which helps us better help you.
Here is his message to MJL:
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Hello Naoko,
I just wanted to share some happy new with you. Last weekend, J(a woman’s name) and I got engaged! She came to Toyama and I took her out to a nice French restaurant. There I proposed to her and she accepted. I gave her an engagement ring! We had a wonderful evening together going to a cocktail bar and also seeing some live Jazz. We are both extremely happy and plan to have our wedding next summer on August 15th in Vancouver. Maybe you can join us for our celebration! Here are some pictures of our engagement!
Thank you again for introducing Junko to me. I never thought I`d be able to find the lady of my dreams, but now I have! Thank you very much!!!
Regards,
M.T.(Canada)
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He attended our Tokyo meetup in 2008, where I met him at our office. Since his smile was impressive, I found him a wonderful woman.
I highly recommend all of our male members to attend our meetups since they are a great opportunity for you to meet our female members in person, and it allows MJL to learn about our male members so that we may better assist you in finding your correct match.
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November 16, 2009
Do You Dream of Living a Fairy Tale Life in Japan with a Stunningly Beautiful Japanese Lady?
A cute young Japanese lady, who is 28 years old (F10014) is dreaming of meeting one special man to share her life with in Japan. If you feel that you could be that special man, then signup now to see her photo and detailed profile! If you are already a member, ask Naoko for more information!
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October 27, 2009
Are you interested in a Japanese nurse as a wife?
My friend owns a nursing school in Los Angeles exclusively for Japanese women. He said many of his students are interested in getting married to American men. All his students have already a RN certificate in Japan, and they are studying to get a RN certificate in the US. However, since the US government changed a key law that now limits foreign nurses working in the US, so his students can not work in the US even though they have passed the US NCLEX-RN examination.
The nurse students ages range 25-40.
Good points to meet Japanese nurses are as follows.
The nurse students ages range 25-40.
Good points to meet Japanese nurses are as follows.
- Since they are living in LA, meetings are easy to set up.
- They can work after getting married and it is not difficult to find a professional job as a nurse.
- Japanese women work hard, and they can help with supporting family since RNs are independent in the US, and they are paid well.
- Their English writing and speaking abilities are excellent since they came to study in the US.
- Since there women are professionally focused, they are independent financially and mentally.
- They learned about health, so they have the skills and the passion for taking care of people.
- As a profession, they are good at taking care of people!
In conclusion, getting married to a Japanese nurse makes your family life stable, and your choice also gives them a great opportunity and confidence to work as a nurse in the US.
If you are interested in Japanese nurses who are studying in Los Angeles,
please let us know.
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September 10, 2009
Which would you prefer, Japanese women living in the US or Japan?
I received the following message from one of our male members.
“One who lives in States for long time - I like, but too much time here may take away beautiful Japanese woman inside. I don’t want American women! ”
He is right.
Japanese women who have been in the US for a long time may become Americanized.
To be honest, I realized that I am getting stronger than I used to be in Japan. Why? I have been here in the US for more than 5 years! Living in the US is challenging for me. Everyone has to be strong, independent, and confident in order to survive in this country. So I feel compelled to be like an American since I live in the US. However, even though Japanese women who have been living in the US for years may act American, they still have their traditional Japanese soul inside.
Traditional Japanese women are taught by their parents respect, contribution, and loyalty toward their husband. It is said that good wife walks 3 steps behind her husband. Growing up I saw my mother follow that custom. She wakes up earlier than my father, and prepares breakfast everyday. She does not start eating before my father has his chopsticks in his hand. She always takes a bath after he does. She doesn’t go to bed before he does. When he leaves for his office in the morning, she opens the gate for him and waves good bye until his car disappears around the corner. She opens the door for him when he returns home. She tells her children to listen to their father. She always says “Yes” to him because she knows following my father’s opinion creates a harmonious relationship. In Japan, wife and husband are not exactly equal, but there is good harmony in the family.
I learned Japanese ways of showing respect, contribution, and loyalty from my parents, and I know that is why my parents continue their marriage for a long time. And I appreciate it and I try not to forget what my parents taught me even though I live in the US.
For better or for worse, living in the US makes Japanese women stronger and more American. Fortunately, I like to think, most Japanese women still retain their traditional Japanese values inside their heart.
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July 31, 2009
Do You Expect Your Japanese Wife to Speak Perfect English?
Some men ask me about our female members’ English skill. They believe that Japanese women who are finding western husband MUST have perfect English speaking, listening and writing abilities.
I say that most of our female members have good English conversational skills, however, as English is a second language for them, they most likely do not speak it perfectly. Thus, if you are interested in a Japanese wife, it would be helpful to be a good listener.
I think I should ask our male members about their Japanese language skills. Most of the men who require high standards of English skills for Japanese women have never learned a second language. They possibly do not understand how hard it is to learn a second language.
My husband has lived in Germany for two years. So he can speak German, but he never learned Japanese. However, he is a very good listener. He is never upset whenever we encounter miscommunications regarding the English language. He always listens to me carefully, and he gives me a hint of how to say it in English. So we find solutions together. Also, whenever we watch DVDs at home, when I hear words that I don’t understand in the movie, he puts the pause button on and rewinds and explains the meaning. I appreciate his efforts and patience. Because of his help, my English skills are increasing little by little after getting married. Also, my husband helps by proofreading my writings including the one you are reading now.
Regarding your future marriage life with a Japanese wife, I think that language itself is not as important as being a good listener with respect and love.
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I say that most of our female members have good English conversational skills, however, as English is a second language for them, they most likely do not speak it perfectly. Thus, if you are interested in a Japanese wife, it would be helpful to be a good listener.
I think I should ask our male members about their Japanese language skills. Most of the men who require high standards of English skills for Japanese women have never learned a second language. They possibly do not understand how hard it is to learn a second language.
My husband has lived in Germany for two years. So he can speak German, but he never learned Japanese. However, he is a very good listener. He is never upset whenever we encounter miscommunications regarding the English language. He always listens to me carefully, and he gives me a hint of how to say it in English. So we find solutions together. Also, whenever we watch DVDs at home, when I hear words that I don’t understand in the movie, he puts the pause button on and rewinds and explains the meaning. I appreciate his efforts and patience. Because of his help, my English skills are increasing little by little after getting married. Also, my husband helps by proofreading my writings including the one you are reading now.
Regarding your future marriage life with a Japanese wife, I think that language itself is not as important as being a good listener with respect and love.
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June 21, 2009
June Bride in Hawaii
One of our successful couples sent us some photos of their wedding in Hawaii.
He was an American living in Hawaii who visited Japan to meet female members last summer.
During his first visit to Japan, he proposed marriage to her.
Her answer was “YES!”
In the past year, their lives have improved dramatically! It has been a dream come true for both of them! They will move into a beautiful new house in Hawaii and they are expecting a baby in November!
I am very happy for them!
I hope….
You are next YOU!!!
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May 30, 2009
Singles MeetUp in LA
Here is the announcement from Meet Japan Lady.com
We are planning to do a Singles MeetUp for single Japanese women and single American men in Los Angeles.
Cost: around $20 for lunch buffet:
When: Sun, June 7th 2009 11:30am
Where: At a restaurant in Orange county.
Who is this meetup fo?:
Every gentleman who is interested in finding a Japanese wife is welcome!
Every Japanese lady who is interested in finding an American husband is welcome!
For more information, please read the following website.
http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/
About this event:
http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/about/
About us:
http://meetjapanlady.com/
I am looking forward to meeting with you in Los Angeles!
Naoko
President
MeetJapanLady.com
We are planning to do a Singles MeetUp for single Japanese women and single American men in Los Angeles.
Cost: around $20 for lunch buffet:
When: Sun, June 7th 2009 11:30am
Where: At a restaurant in Orange county.
Who is this meetup fo?:
Every gentleman who is interested in finding a Japanese wife is welcome!
Every Japanese lady who is interested in finding an American husband is welcome!
For more information, please read the following website.
http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/
About this event:
http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/about/
About us:
http://meetjapanlady.com/
I am looking forward to meeting with you in Los Angeles!
Naoko
President
MeetJapanLady.com
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February 14, 2009
Green Baby was Just Born!
Our Green Baby boy was born on Jan 22, 2009.
The due date was Feb 23rd, so he came to us a month early.
We named him “YUMA”.
Although nobody in our family is Native American,
“YUMA” means chief’s son in a Native American language.
I like the name “YUMA” because it can be a Japanese name,
so it is easy for my Japanese family to call him.
“YUMA” means “SPECTACULAR, UNIVERSE” in Japanese “悠真”
And also it means “THOROUGHBRED” in Japanese “優馬”
I like the name “YUMA”, because it is an unique name in America.
I hope that when he is old enough to understand his name,
he also likes it as much as I do.
YUMA is half Japanese and a quarter American and German.
My husband said that he will teach him English and German.
I want to teach him Japanese!
He has to study hard!! Oh, poor boy!
Why do we call him “Green Baby”?
Because we hope that he is growing up in nature,
in our wild garden, surrounded by plants and animals.
We sent holiday cards to my friends last December.
And then my friend sent us the following picture!
We are happy to be given “YUMA”.
He is the most precious gift I have ever been given.
Single Japanese Ladies and American Men Meetuphttp://singles.meetup.com/867/calendar/6645126/
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The due date was Feb 23rd, so he came to us a month early.
We named him “YUMA”.
Although nobody in our family is Native American,
“YUMA” means chief’s son in a Native American language.
I like the name “YUMA” because it can be a Japanese name,
so it is easy for my Japanese family to call him.
“YUMA” means “SPECTACULAR, UNIVERSE” in Japanese “悠真”
And also it means “THOROUGHBRED” in Japanese “優馬”
I like the name “YUMA”, because it is an unique name in America.
I hope that when he is old enough to understand his name,
he also likes it as much as I do.
YUMA is half Japanese and a quarter American and German.
My husband said that he will teach him English and German.
I want to teach him Japanese!
He has to study hard!! Oh, poor boy!
Why do we call him “Green Baby”?
Because we hope that he is growing up in nature,
in our wild garden, surrounded by plants and animals.
We sent holiday cards to my friends last December.
And then my friend sent us the following picture!
We are happy to be given “YUMA”.
He is the most precious gift I have ever been given.
Single Japanese Ladies and American Men Meetuphttp://singles.meetup.com/867/calendar/6645126/
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September 13, 2008
OMAMORI
I became pregnant.
It is an amazing experience for me and my husband.
Recently, I received a surprising gift from a male client.
He visited Tokyo in May to meet one of our female members,
and he visited her again this summer to spend his vacation with her.
They traveled to Kansai area to see historic Japanese temples.
Then they found an OMAMORI, a good luck charm for having a baby safely, when they went to Enryakuji temple, one of the greatest historic temples in Japan..
http://www.hieizan.or.jp/
Here is a picture of OMAMORI.
Japanese people believe that these tiny charms protect you from any bad fortunes.
There are some different kinds of OMAMORI which are for safe driving, for happy family, for blessing a newborn, for good grade, for business success, for good health, and so on.
You will get them in shrines and temples in Japan.
He mailed it to us as a gift, since he knows I am got pregnant.
We are so happy to receive such a wonderful gift!
Thank you very much.
Here is the testimonial from him.
http://www.meetjapanlady.com/testimonials_c.htm
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It is an amazing experience for me and my husband.
Recently, I received a surprising gift from a male client.
He visited Tokyo in May to meet one of our female members,
and he visited her again this summer to spend his vacation with her.
They traveled to Kansai area to see historic Japanese temples.
Then they found an OMAMORI, a good luck charm for having a baby safely, when they went to Enryakuji temple, one of the greatest historic temples in Japan..
http://www.hieizan.or.jp/
Here is a picture of OMAMORI.
Japanese people believe that these tiny charms protect you from any bad fortunes.
There are some different kinds of OMAMORI which are for safe driving, for happy family, for blessing a newborn, for good grade, for business success, for good health, and so on.
You will get them in shrines and temples in Japan.
He mailed it to us as a gift, since he knows I am got pregnant.
We are so happy to receive such a wonderful gift!
Thank you very much.
Here is the testimonial from him.
http://www.meetjapanlady.com/testimonials_c.htm
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May 24, 2008
New Website!
Greetings all,
We have fabulous news!
Our website has just been redone!
http://MeetJapanLady.com
We are offering a onetime special deal for membership right now.
As a special client, we are offering a FREE Trial membership to YOU!
Please hurry!
This special offer ends June 15, 2008.
We are looking forward to hearing from you soon!
Warm regards,
Naoko / CEO and Advisor
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April 02, 2008
Sakura Ga Sakimashita
Sakura Ga Sakimashita
Did you know about the story of cherry trees in Washington D.C.?
Cherry blossoms are enhancing the friendship between the U.S. and Japan.
http://aranishi.hobby-web.net/3web_ara/sakura_e.htm
My friend in Japan sent me a picture today.
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February 26, 2008
Our Wedding in Japan
My husband, his parents and I just came back from Japan. The main purpose of this trip was to have our wedding ceremony in Japan in the Japanese style. Finally, we had our beautiful wedding ceremony! We first got married in the US in October 2006. Unfortunately, I couldn’t leave the US until after I got my greencard in June 2007. Having a wedding ceremony in Japan was my parents’ wish, and I am happy that their dream came true.
I think it was also a wonderful experience for my parents in law. My husband and I each wore a traditional Japanese KIMONO first for the wedding ceremony, and then changed into a contemporary western dress and tuxedo for the wedding reception. It was the first experience for my husband and his mother to wear KIMONO, and she looked gorgeous!
Look at my big head, or as my husband says, “The Bird Nest!”.
This is the typical Japanese wedding style.
It was the first big event in our life, and it should be the last wedding in our life, hopefully.
Naoko
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I think it was also a wonderful experience for my parents in law. My husband and I each wore a traditional Japanese KIMONO first for the wedding ceremony, and then changed into a contemporary western dress and tuxedo for the wedding reception. It was the first experience for my husband and his mother to wear KIMONO, and she looked gorgeous!
Look at my big head, or as my husband says, “The Bird Nest!”.This is the typical Japanese wedding style.
It was the first big event in our life, and it should be the last wedding in our life, hopefully.
Naoko
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December 19, 2007
The Most Popular Christmas Song in Japan
Here is the most popular Christmas song in Japan.
This song is sung by Tatsuro Yamashita.
Since this song is famous for the TV commercial of JR Tokai, which is the train company, everyone knows it! If you are walking around the street in Tokyo around Christmas time, you will hear this song all the time. As you see in this TV commercial, in Japan, Christmas day is the day when lovers spend time together. Most of the hotel rooms in Tokyo are booked by couples, and it is a lonely day for a single person.
JR Tokai CM --- Christmas Express
Christmas Eve by Tatsuro Yamashita (English Version)
This song is also a popular Christmas song in Japan!
Last Christmas by WHAM!
So, I will be happy to help you find your Miss Right in Japan!
Happy Holidays!
Naoko
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This song is sung by Tatsuro Yamashita.
Since this song is famous for the TV commercial of JR Tokai, which is the train company, everyone knows it! If you are walking around the street in Tokyo around Christmas time, you will hear this song all the time. As you see in this TV commercial, in Japan, Christmas day is the day when lovers spend time together. Most of the hotel rooms in Tokyo are booked by couples, and it is a lonely day for a single person.
JR Tokai CM --- Christmas Express
Christmas Eve by Tatsuro Yamashita (English Version)
This song is also a popular Christmas song in Japan!
Last Christmas by WHAM!
So, I will be happy to help you find your Miss Right in Japan!
Happy Holidays!
Naoko
Tokyo Single Japanese Ladies and American Men Meetup:
for Single American Men and Japanese Women http://singles.meetup.com/867/
Meet Japan Lady.com
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Your comments are always welcome!
Naoko will be happy to reply.
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December 11, 2007
Sukiyaki Song
Ue wo muite arukou Kyu Sakamoto –
If you want to sing a Japanese song at Karaoke,
I highly recommend this beautiful Japanese song!
The song is called “SUKIYAKI,” and originally sung by Kyu Sakamoto.
He is famous all over the world.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sukiyaki_%28song%29
SUKIYAKI Song won the first prize on the billboard chart in the US in 1963.
Unfortunately, Kyu Sakamoto was killed in a plane crash in 1985.
Although he passed away, his beautiful song still remains in everyone’s heart.
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If you want to sing a Japanese song at Karaoke,
I highly recommend this beautiful Japanese song!
The song is called “SUKIYAKI,” and originally sung by Kyu Sakamoto.
He is famous all over the world.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sukiyaki_%28song%29
SUKIYAKI Song won the first prize on the billboard chart in the US in 1963.
Unfortunately, Kyu Sakamoto was killed in a plane crash in 1985.
Although he passed away, his beautiful song still remains in everyone’s heart.
Tokyo Single Japanese Ladies and American Men Meetup:
for Single American Men and Japanese Women http://singles.meetup.com/867/
Meet Japan Lady.comPersonalized Marriage Introduction Service
for Professional American Men
http://MeetJapanLady.com
Your comments are always welcome!
Naoko will be happy to reply.info@MeetJapanLady.com
October 19, 2007
Why I Escaped from Japan?
Because.....
But I like this.....
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October 04, 2007
Western Men, Be the Boss!
The relationship between men and women in Japan is quite different from how it is in the western countries. In Japan, the ratio of the power dynamic between a husband and wife is NOT “50/50”. Generally, it is about “70/30”. (Perhaps it is my opinion.) So, sometimes, when a man starts to communicate with a Japanese woman, he might get off the wrong foot because of the cultural difference.
For Example, when you date, you might ask her
“Where would you like to drive?”
Then she answers,
“Wherever…..”
Or, when you eat at the fancy restaurant with her, you might ask her
“What would you like to eat?”
And she might answer,
“whatever”
or
”I would like the same as your order.”
She doesn’t say what she wants to do or what she wants to eat exactly, yet she is waiting for his decision first.
In most of the western countries, it is generally accepted as the norm that each person is free to make his/her own decision or to come to an agreement after discussion. However, in Japan, a woman expects a man to decide for both of them. She expects him to be a strong leader whom she can follow. In Japan, the male dominated society has existed since “The Samurai Period”, and it still continues in the 21st century. In order to promulgate a harmonious relationship with a Japanese woman, I advise you to be the “boss”, almost like most Japanese men, but in a friendlier way. When you date a Japanese woman, it would be better that you give her the direction. So, as in my previous example, it is better for you to decide where to dine and to suggest the special yummy dishes. And then, she will feel more comfortable with you. The ratio 70/30, this is one of the keys for good communication with a Japanese woman.
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For Example, when you date, you might ask her
“Where would you like to drive?”
Then she answers,
“Wherever…..”
Or, when you eat at the fancy restaurant with her, you might ask her
“What would you like to eat?”
And she might answer,
“whatever”
or
”I would like the same as your order.”
She doesn’t say what she wants to do or what she wants to eat exactly, yet she is waiting for his decision first.
In most of the western countries, it is generally accepted as the norm that each person is free to make his/her own decision or to come to an agreement after discussion. However, in Japan, a woman expects a man to decide for both of them. She expects him to be a strong leader whom she can follow. In Japan, the male dominated society has existed since “The Samurai Period”, and it still continues in the 21st century. In order to promulgate a harmonious relationship with a Japanese woman, I advise you to be the “boss”, almost like most Japanese men, but in a friendlier way. When you date a Japanese woman, it would be better that you give her the direction. So, as in my previous example, it is better for you to decide where to dine and to suggest the special yummy dishes. And then, she will feel more comfortable with you. The ratio 70/30, this is one of the keys for good communication with a Japanese woman.
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September 27, 2007
Autumn Updated : New Female Members
I updated some of our female members recently.
Please check!
F17125 Kyoko (Tokyo)
F17124 Emiko (Aichi)
F17123 Chii (Okinawa)
F17122 Teruko (USA)
F17121 Kanako (Tokyo)
Please sign up for our Free Trial Membership to see their profiles.
http://www.meetjapanlady.com/marriage/a7_signup00.htm
If you have any questions, please feel free to ask Naoko!
Naoko
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Please check!
F17125 Kyoko (Tokyo)
F17124 Emiko (Aichi)
F17123 Chii (Okinawa)
F17122 Teruko (USA)
F17121 Kanako (Tokyo)
Please sign up for our Free Trial Membership to see their profiles.
http://www.meetjapanlady.com/marriage/a7_signup00.htm
If you have any questions, please feel free to ask Naoko!
Naoko
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July 11, 2007
OMIAI Meeting
So far this July has been very busy!
We have two OMIAI meetings this weekend.
OMIAI meeting is the first time that a man and woman meet in person with someone else in attendance. This is the traditional Japanese way to find a life partner. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Omiai
In our service, the meeting is usually held in our Tokyo office with Mr. Miyata.
Mr. Miyata is one of the most interesting men I have ever met. He has traveled to more than 80 countries since he was 19 years old. He has a lot of friends all over the world. In addition, Miyata’s partner (she doesn’t want anyone to call her Miyata’s wife) is from France. Also, he started a marriage introduction service for Japanese men and Russian women about 10 years ago.
Miyata has experienced many different cultures, so, if you have any questions about interracial marriage, he is the person to ask! He can advise both women and men but he specializes in men’s topics.
I am so excited about the moment of the OMIAI Meeting, although I can not usually attend since I live in the US. Sometimes, I join the meeting through skype.
The meetings this weekend include a gentleman from Ohio and a gentleman from California visiting their prospective wives at our Tokyo office.
The man from Ohio has traveled to Japan several times, so I think he will have an easy time.
The man from California is not familiar with city of Tokyo.
So, I gave him some hotel information, subway map, and so on. This info will help him find his way in the large city of Tokyo.
(Note I am going to add Tokyo Travel Information pages on our website to guide men in Tokyo.)
Another gentleman from Seattle is also visiting his fiancé this weekend.
They went through an unusually short courtship period of just 3 months.I discussed with him about the prenuptial agreement since it is not very common in Japan. I am going to write about it on my blog later.
And a gentleman from Chicago is coming in July to join his fiancé at their wedding party.They will do a Japanese style wedding in a shrine in Tokyo.
She said she will give us a report of how the ceremony goes, so I will write about it in my blog later!
These successful couples met through our website with much assistance and encouragement from me. They cultivated their relationships for 6 months to 2 years.
On average couples meet and get married within 1 to 2 years..
Some men tell me that our membership of 2 years is a little too long.
But I believe that 2 years is a reasonable timeframe to meet your life partner because creating a meaningful relationship is not like a sprint race but more like a slow and deliberate marathon race.
Anyway, I am happy and busy in July.
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We have two OMIAI meetings this weekend.
OMIAI meeting is the first time that a man and woman meet in person with someone else in attendance. This is the traditional Japanese way to find a life partner. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Omiai
In our service, the meeting is usually held in our Tokyo office with Mr. Miyata.
Mr. Miyata is one of the most interesting men I have ever met. He has traveled to more than 80 countries since he was 19 years old. He has a lot of friends all over the world. In addition, Miyata’s partner (she doesn’t want anyone to call her Miyata’s wife) is from France. Also, he started a marriage introduction service for Japanese men and Russian women about 10 years ago.
Miyata has experienced many different cultures, so, if you have any questions about interracial marriage, he is the person to ask! He can advise both women and men but he specializes in men’s topics.
I am so excited about the moment of the OMIAI Meeting, although I can not usually attend since I live in the US. Sometimes, I join the meeting through skype.
The meetings this weekend include a gentleman from Ohio and a gentleman from California visiting their prospective wives at our Tokyo office.
The man from Ohio has traveled to Japan several times, so I think he will have an easy time.
The man from California is not familiar with city of Tokyo.
So, I gave him some hotel information, subway map, and so on. This info will help him find his way in the large city of Tokyo.
(Note I am going to add Tokyo Travel Information pages on our website to guide men in Tokyo.)
Another gentleman from Seattle is also visiting his fiancé this weekend.
They went through an unusually short courtship period of just 3 months.I discussed with him about the prenuptial agreement since it is not very common in Japan. I am going to write about it on my blog later.
And a gentleman from Chicago is coming in July to join his fiancé at their wedding party.They will do a Japanese style wedding in a shrine in Tokyo.
She said she will give us a report of how the ceremony goes, so I will write about it in my blog later!
These successful couples met through our website with much assistance and encouragement from me. They cultivated their relationships for 6 months to 2 years.
On average couples meet and get married within 1 to 2 years..
Some men tell me that our membership of 2 years is a little too long.
But I believe that 2 years is a reasonable timeframe to meet your life partner because creating a meaningful relationship is not like a sprint race but more like a slow and deliberate marathon race.
Anyway, I am happy and busy in July.
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I will be happy to reply.
info@meetjapanlady.com
May 03, 2007
Golden Week
In Japan, there is a big holiday now called The Golden Week.The Golden Week is a weeklong collection of holidays. Here are the names of Golden Week’s national holidays:
April 29 - Showa Emperor’s Birthday or Greenery Day (Midorino Hi)
May 1 - May Day (It is not a public holiday, but people don’t work on this day.
May 3 - Constitution Memorial Day (Kenpō kinenbi?)
May 4 - People's Day, or Citizen's Day ( Kokumin no kyūjitsu?)
May 5 - Children's Day ( Kodomonohi)Note: When a public holiday lands on a
Sunday, the next day that is not already a holiday becomes a holiday for that year.
It is one of the popular weeks to travel around for workaholic Japanese people as they cannot take holidays that often. So it is a good chance for male members to meet our female members either in Tokyo or in the US.
One of our male members in Seattle wrote me an email.The woman he is corresponding with is visiting him during this holiday.He sounds so excited.I called him, and I talked with him and her.I was pleased so much because they both sounded happy being together.
Our membership lasts two years.
Is this too short or too long?
It depends on how much effort you put into corresponding with one of our female members.Some of our members, both men and women, are passive, and they have just been waiting for somebody’s contact.
What I want you to do is talk more with Naoko.
Your asking me questions helps me to improve our service.
And I can only help you when you are seriously looking for someone.
This gentleman in Seattle registered for our membership in the middle of January. He started corresponding with one of our female members from our website soon thereafter. Then she visited him already at the end of April.
Is this too quick?
I encourage people who have a strong desire to be married to become a member. Because if both men and women are serious, the matchmaking goes smoothly.
Don’t wait too long.
Take action NOW!
Ask Naoko!
The next big holiday in Japan is in the middle of August. Most of our female members are busy with their careers, but they can take their vacations easily during the summer although the travel costs more than usual.
To meet your special Japanese lady this summer, Let's get started now!
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April 29 - Showa Emperor’s Birthday or Greenery Day (Midorino Hi)
May 1 - May Day (It is not a public holiday, but people don’t work on this day.
May 3 - Constitution Memorial Day (Kenpō kinenbi?)
May 4 - People's Day, or Citizen's Day ( Kokumin no kyūjitsu?)
May 5 - Children's Day ( Kodomonohi)Note: When a public holiday lands on a
Sunday, the next day that is not already a holiday becomes a holiday for that year.
It is one of the popular weeks to travel around for workaholic Japanese people as they cannot take holidays that often. So it is a good chance for male members to meet our female members either in Tokyo or in the US.
One of our male members in Seattle wrote me an email.The woman he is corresponding with is visiting him during this holiday.He sounds so excited.I called him, and I talked with him and her.I was pleased so much because they both sounded happy being together.
Our membership lasts two years.
Is this too short or too long?
It depends on how much effort you put into corresponding with one of our female members.Some of our members, both men and women, are passive, and they have just been waiting for somebody’s contact.
What I want you to do is talk more with Naoko.
Your asking me questions helps me to improve our service.
And I can only help you when you are seriously looking for someone.
This gentleman in Seattle registered for our membership in the middle of January. He started corresponding with one of our female members from our website soon thereafter. Then she visited him already at the end of April.
Is this too quick?
I encourage people who have a strong desire to be married to become a member. Because if both men and women are serious, the matchmaking goes smoothly.
Don’t wait too long.
Take action NOW!
Ask Naoko!
The next big holiday in Japan is in the middle of August. Most of our female members are busy with their careers, but they can take their vacations easily during the summer although the travel costs more than usual.
To meet your special Japanese lady this summer, Let's get started now!
Meet Japan Lady.com
Personalized Marriage Introduction Service for
Professional American Men
http://meetjapanlady.com
Your comments are always welcome! I will be happy to reply.
info@meetjapanlady.com
March 26, 2007
Free Hugs
My friend sent me an interesting website. I want to share it with you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4
http://www.free-hugs.com/
“Free Hugs! That is what we need! ”
I thought when I saw this.
When I first came to the US, I felt happy when someone hugged me.
Although I couldn’t communicate well in the English language, a hug is a great way of communicating without words.
Unfortunately, there is no HUG custom in Japan.
Parents or teacher don’t teach children how to hug because they don’t know how wonderful hugging is. Also, in Japan, there are not many opportunities people talk about “LOVE”. People think talking about LOVE seriously is kind of embarrassing.
I believe that LOVE is everything.I would like to share idea of hugging with the Japanese people, in hopes of allowing them to show affection more openly and warmly.
So, I introduced the “Free Hug” website on both my English and Japanese blogs.
And I suggested that Japanese people join the Hug Movement.
It would be nice if more people start to think about Hugging in Japan.It would be wonderful if more people talk about “LOVE”.
I believe this “Free Hug Movement” changes the world for the better in seemingly small ways but really have a big impact.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4
http://www.free-hugs.com/
“Free Hugs! That is what we need! ”
I thought when I saw this.
When I first came to the US, I felt happy when someone hugged me.
Although I couldn’t communicate well in the English language, a hug is a great way of communicating without words.
Unfortunately, there is no HUG custom in Japan.
Parents or teacher don’t teach children how to hug because they don’t know how wonderful hugging is. Also, in Japan, there are not many opportunities people talk about “LOVE”. People think talking about LOVE seriously is kind of embarrassing.
I believe that LOVE is everything.I would like to share idea of hugging with the Japanese people, in hopes of allowing them to show affection more openly and warmly.
So, I introduced the “Free Hug” website on both my English and Japanese blogs.
And I suggested that Japanese people join the Hug Movement.
It would be nice if more people start to think about Hugging in Japan.It would be wonderful if more people talk about “LOVE”.
I believe this “Free Hug Movement” changes the world for the better in seemingly small ways but really have a big impact.
Meet Japan Lady.com
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http://meetjapanlady.com
Your comments are always welcome!
I will be happy to reply.
March 06, 2007
BOW BOW BOW!
I haven’t seen many Japanese in Maryland since I moved from Los Angeles.
Where are they?
When I was in LA,
I saw many Japanese people everyday.
As I shopped in the Japanese supermarket,
I wondered
“Am I in Japan?”
But here in Maryland, I only have one Japanese girlfriend.
I asked her,
“Have you seen any Japanese people?”
She answered,
“Rarely in Baltimore, but I saw Japanese businessmen in DC area.”
“How did you know that they were Japanese? They could have been Chinese or Korean.”
“They were absolutely Japanese because…”
“Because…?”
“Because… they were bowing on the street.”
“I see…”
“I am sure that they were Japanese even though I saw them from far distance because they bowed. ”
“I know what you mean because only Japanese bow.”
It may look funny from western eyes, but we Japanese have bowing custom.
Japanese people bow again and again as a way of showing respect to others.
So, business people bow to their clients or people bow to someone who is older.
Students bow to the teachers, children bow to their parents or grandparents in some families.
It is hard for Japanese people to change this cultural life habit even though they have lived in the US for a long time. I don’t think Chinese people or Korean people have the same bowing custom we have.
“OK, I believe there are some Japanese people in DC area.”
As I finish talking with her, I said good bye to her.
“SOREDEWA SHITSUREI SHIMASU”,
and I bowed to the phone and hung up.
I realized that I am really Japanese!
Here are some descriptions about the JAPANESE BOWING CUSTOM.
I hope you understand, and perhaps you will laugh.
Where are they?
When I was in LA,
I saw many Japanese people everyday.
As I shopped in the Japanese supermarket,
I wondered
“Am I in Japan?”
But here in Maryland, I only have one Japanese girlfriend.
I asked her,
“Have you seen any Japanese people?”
She answered,
“Rarely in Baltimore, but I saw Japanese businessmen in DC area.”
“How did you know that they were Japanese? They could have been Chinese or Korean.”
“They were absolutely Japanese because…”
“Because…?”
“Because… they were bowing on the street.”
“I see…”
“I am sure that they were Japanese even though I saw them from far distance because they bowed. ”
“I know what you mean because only Japanese bow.”
It may look funny from western eyes, but we Japanese have bowing custom.
Japanese people bow again and again as a way of showing respect to others.
So, business people bow to their clients or people bow to someone who is older.
Students bow to the teachers, children bow to their parents or grandparents in some families.
It is hard for Japanese people to change this cultural life habit even though they have lived in the US for a long time. I don’t think Chinese people or Korean people have the same bowing custom we have.
“OK, I believe there are some Japanese people in DC area.”
As I finish talking with her, I said good bye to her.
“SOREDEWA SHITSUREI SHIMASU”,
and I bowed to the phone and hung up.
I realized that I am really Japanese!
Here are some descriptions about the JAPANESE BOWING CUSTOM.
I hope you understand, and perhaps you will laugh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ads_XnWvMd4
http://www.ph-heidelberg.de/wp/krug/index.html
http://gojapan.about.com/cs/etiquetteinjapan/a/bowing.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_customs#Bowing
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February 21, 2007
Long and Black Hair
“Why do you wish to meet a Japanese lady?”
I usually ask men who want to meet Japanese ladies.
Most of them answer that they like Japanese ladies
because Japanese ladies have long and black hair which is beautiful.
I think most American men’s image of Japanese ladies is very traditional.
They might dream Yoko Ono or a princess in Heian period (794 to 1185)
I usually ask men who want to meet Japanese ladies.
Most of them answer that they like Japanese ladies
because Japanese ladies have long and black hair which is beautiful.
I think most American men’s image of Japanese ladies is very traditional.
They might dream Yoko Ono or a princess in Heian period (794 to 1185)
Yes, we all have black hair originally, but Japanese ladies try to have their hair dyed in Brown or light brown. Some ladies even dye their hair blonde or have their hair dread locked which some consider cool and stylish! When I was in University in Tokyo, not many girlfriends around me have long and black hair. It is sarcasm, but Japanese ladies dream Western culture.
Men I met in the US always told me not to have my hair cut short.So does my husband.
Why?
My husband says,
“Long and black hair is beautiful.”
“OK, I keep my hair long”
How devoted Japanese wife is!
Since I do not want to break American men’s dream, I obey their opinion.I advise our female members to keep their black hair long and never have it dyed.
By the way, I am a little concerned about several white hairs I have in my hair.Should I dye them black?
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February 15, 2007
Happy Valentine!
Did you have a nice time on Valentine’s Day?In Japan, the Valentine’s Day is the day for men. It is the day when women show men their feelings with chocolate.
Women go shopping to buy gifts, and usually they buy chocolate for Valentine’s Day. I don’t know who decided this practice, but men are just waiting to be given chocolate. How many chocolate you have received is important for men. Every year, it is reported how many trucks of chocolate and gifts young pop musicians or movie stars have gotten from their female fans, and it is a kind of the status symbol rating their popularity. It also means that it is a lonely day for single men without any girlfriends.
While at work, ladies are supposed to deliver chocolate as a ritual. This is important for ladies to keep their position in their office. Usually, this kind of chocolate is cheap which is about 300 yen to 500 yen. Although it is cheap, it is better than nothing. Because of just cheap ritual chocolate make the atmosphere in the office harmonious. If you got expensive chocolate from your co worker, she must like you. To be liked from your co worker or not depends on the price of the chocolate you have gotten.
In Japan, there is White Day one month after the Valentine’s Day. (March 14th) This is the day for women. Men who have received chocolate on Valentine’s Day are supposed to give women gifts in return. Usually, it is supposed to be more expensive than the chocolate women gave. So, many men go to look for the “equid pro quo gifts” in the Louis Vuitton shops, Chanel shops, and other jewelry shops before the White Day. Those events are tricky and well-organized scheme for both women and the shops.
I was tired of taking part in such kind of commercialized and superficial annual rituals.
I was glad to learn that Valentine’s Day in the US is practiced differently than in Japan. It is for both men and women in the US. Is it true?My husband and I don’t believe in following rituals, so we didn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. It was just anther day, but everyday is special for us.Especially, we are together everyday, and I am happy with him.
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Women go shopping to buy gifts, and usually they buy chocolate for Valentine’s Day. I don’t know who decided this practice, but men are just waiting to be given chocolate. How many chocolate you have received is important for men. Every year, it is reported how many trucks of chocolate and gifts young pop musicians or movie stars have gotten from their female fans, and it is a kind of the status symbol rating their popularity. It also means that it is a lonely day for single men without any girlfriends.
While at work, ladies are supposed to deliver chocolate as a ritual. This is important for ladies to keep their position in their office. Usually, this kind of chocolate is cheap which is about 300 yen to 500 yen. Although it is cheap, it is better than nothing. Because of just cheap ritual chocolate make the atmosphere in the office harmonious. If you got expensive chocolate from your co worker, she must like you. To be liked from your co worker or not depends on the price of the chocolate you have gotten.
In Japan, there is White Day one month after the Valentine’s Day. (March 14th) This is the day for women. Men who have received chocolate on Valentine’s Day are supposed to give women gifts in return. Usually, it is supposed to be more expensive than the chocolate women gave. So, many men go to look for the “equid pro quo gifts” in the Louis Vuitton shops, Chanel shops, and other jewelry shops before the White Day. Those events are tricky and well-organized scheme for both women and the shops.
I was tired of taking part in such kind of commercialized and superficial annual rituals.
I was glad to learn that Valentine’s Day in the US is practiced differently than in Japan. It is for both men and women in the US. Is it true?My husband and I don’t believe in following rituals, so we didn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. It was just anther day, but everyday is special for us.Especially, we are together everyday, and I am happy with him.
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