Wedding in JAPAN

We just announced the news of the engagement of Mr. D and Miss S! We had another client couple who had a wedding ceremony in JAPAN on April 19th.

Congratulations to Mr. R and Miss M!!!

I met Miss M at our office a long time ago. I cannot remember exactly, but most likely at least 5 years have passed since she became a member. She has unique experiences such as working in Africa and a high education background. After returning from Africa, she chose to work in a university at a good position as she attended classes toward her Masters degree at the same time. This meant that she wanted to stay in TOKYO for a couple more years. However, she believed that her future husband was not in Japan. I think mature women like her prefer to meet mature, respectful men. They don’t believe that in JAPAN, it is easy to find a lifelong partner whose level of intelligence is the same as they expected. Anyway, Miss M had been looking for such a man.

I met Mr. R in Baltimore right after I got married and moved here in winter 2007. He drove more than 2 hours to meet me in Baltimore, so that I would be able to introduce him to a wonderful Japanese wife based upon his needs and personality. I felt that he was SERIOUS and intelligent. So I introduced him to Miss M, and they started corresponding. Repeating their visits to Japan and the US, they have been creating a good relationship little by little.

He was very patient, since he had to wait until she got her Masters degree in March 2010. I am glad that he understood that it was very important for Miss M to get her Masters since this will give her more options once she moves to the US. He proposed and she accepted. They have been getting ready for having a marriage ceremony in JAPAN on April 18th.　His parents also traveled to Japan to attend the wedding ceremony. They are very happy, too!!!

Mr. R and Miss M, I am very happy for you both and your families!

It may have taken a while, but patience has its reward!!!

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Engaged!!!

We have received happy news from our client couple, Mr.D and Miss S. They were engaged last week when Mr. D visited Japan. I remember that he told us that he likes traveling to Japan every year in April to see SAKURA (Cherry Blossomｓ). This year, he gave her an engagement ring under the pink cherry blossom petals showers. They both enjoy Sakura together very much and this year’s will be a wonderful memory! They made their dream come true! Congratulations to you both！

Last June, when we had a Meet Japan Lady Event in Los Angeles, he attended to say hello to us. He just started corresponding with her at that time. She came to our Meet Japan Lady Event in Tokyo in January 2010 to tell us that their relationship is great. So I expected that they were reaching their goal very soon.　In their case, it took about one year’s time to be engaged.

MJL’s Event is not a speed dating or OMIAI party, but both men and women can learn about international communication. And I think it really works for everyone! We will have MJL’s Events the following dates. May 1 in Baltimore, May 30 in Tokyo, June 26 in Los Angeles, and Sept 19 in Baltimore. I hope to see many of our members at our meetups. Please read our website for more details.

I talked with Miss S by Skype yesterday to talk to her about starting her visa work. Since I am not an immigration lawyer, I prefer to just share stories of how past successful couples obtained a visa. We also are able to introduce immigration lawyers who can help our couples. It may be hard to believe, but it takes more than 6 months to obtain a fiancé visa just to enter the US. After getting married in the US, with a marriage record, she has to apply for a green card in order to stay in the US. It takes another 6 to 9 months to　receive a green card. So, it can be very demanding work for both men and women to obtain the proper visas. After 911, requirements for visitors and obtaining visas became stricter because the US government became more nervous about foreign immigrants. So, please take care of her with lots of patience on your part for a while and eventually she will be able to come to the US in compliance with the US laws.

I am so happy for Mr. D and Miss S. Again, congratulations!

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Hanami = Spring + Love

Here in Japan there may be gray clouds covering the skies, but the temperature is rising daily, the sun pokes its head out between them occasionally, it still rains about once a week, and that can mean only one thing; Spring is here. According to the calendar and local festivals, Spring is here. But when you look outside and see everyone in their Winter gear, one would think that this is more like a San Francisco Spring. But the real authorities on Spring have announced it has arrived, and they are never wrong. The Cherry Blossoms have started to bloom all across Japan and when they appear, no matter what the weather is, Spring is here.
As the Cherry Blossoms start to spread across Japan, so do the Hanami parties. Hanami literally translates into “flower viewing”, and it has a long history in Japan. The custom of viewing and of admiring the flower blossoms that arrive in the beginning of Spring, started around the 700's. At the time this was just not limited to just the Cherry Blossoms but also the Plum Blossoms (Ume, 梅). Though both flowers would attract followers, the Cherry Blossom would forever be associated with Hanami, thanks to “The Tale of Genji”. The idea of viewing the Cherry Blossoms being complemented with a party was first mentioned in print in the “The Tale of Genji”, and this combination of flower viewing, parties, and Cherry Blossoms would forever change Japan.
The feasts held under the trees were first just held by royalty, who would hold lavish viewing parties with large banquets. This would later spread to the Samurais of Japan who would copy this new tradition. And, finally later, Tokugawa Yoshimune, would help spread this tradition to all the people in Japan by planting trees all over Japan. This act of kindness was his encouragement that all in Japan should be allowed to enjoy such an elegant and beautiful tradition.
This would turn into so much more than people sitting under the trees, enjoying the flowers, each others company, and the coming of Spring. The blossoms also marked it was time to start planting the rice, so the trees were believed to have gods living in them, and so people would make offerings to the trees. These offerings would be the hopes for a good harvest, but over time the offerings made would become the people drinking Sake and having picnics as an offering.
Today the tradition continues, stronger than ever. On every type of media you can hear or read about when the blossoms are expected to arrive in your local area or anywhere in Japan. In the larger populated areas of Japan, like Yoyogi park in Tokyo, you can find literally thousands of people having picnics, parties, music, dancing and so much more under the trees. In the countryside it is a little more calmer and mostly people just travel to special areas where the trees are most beautiful and enjoy the flowers. There are still picnics being held, but usually a lot more quietly. Temples and shrines will have viewings that are sometimes the best places to visit, because the trees are purposefully pruned and planted to enhance the beauty of the local area.
So why am I telling you this? For starters, Spring time is by far the best time to visit Japan and that special someone that you have met through Meet Japan Lady. Not only is the weather perfect, but to show your future partner that you are serious and maybe slightly romantic, take her to see the Cherry Blossoms. Even in other countries this is possible and such a special experience for her and yourself can happen anywhere. Show her that you care about her traditions and where she comes from, with this special event. It's very easy to find a nice quiet and extremely beautiful spot to view the trees, while sharing a nice quiet picnic lunch with your future partner. This is a great time to talk, share your feelings, and future ambitions in an atmosphere that you both will enjoy.
The Cherry Blossoms are blooming, so Love is in the air. Don't miss such a wonderful experience for yourself and future partner.

Schedule for the trees...
http://www.japan-guide.com/e/e2011.html

Where some of the places throughout Japan are to view the trees...
http://www.japan-guide.com/e/e2011_where.html

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Skype - The Best Communication Tool for International Relationship

Have you ever used Skype? Skype is a free software that connects people to people all over the world instantly.
Using Skype is so easy.

1. Get a headset and maybe a camera if your PC doesn’t have one.

2. Download the software from Skype website and install it in your PC.

3. Get your Skype ID. (you just need your email address to get an ID)

4. Sign in and add other’s Skype ID to your contact list.

Now you can make a video call with those who are using Skype all over the world for FREE!You don’t have to worry about being charged expensive international phone bills.What a great tool for a long-distance relationship!

Email is a very convenient tool too to get in touch with people around the world.
You don’t have to worry about time difference.You can just send it whenever you want to.On the other hand, I believe that there are many people who have experienced the risk of causing misunderstandings when they use emails.

Why??

I guess one of the biggest reasons is that you cannot hear the tone of the voice through emails.Sometimes it’s hard to tell if the message is serious or just a joke when it’s written, while it gets easier to tell when it’s spoken.The voice tone can add more information to the words.

And so does the facial expression!

With the voice tone, facial expression and gestures, communication becomes much smoother and easier.　That’s why I recommend Skype!

There might be a chance that you misinterpret the lines especially when they are written in your second language or your partner is using his/her second language.
Or the reverse might happen too.

Your message might be misinterpreted.

When you get a feeling that you don’t understand the message correctly, please don’t let it as it is. Maybe it is just a small misunderstanding at first.
But many drops make a flood!

Please take time to solve the problem with your partner.It’s good to learn why these misunderstandings happen and how to solve them because sometimes these misunderstandings simply come from cultural differences.
You should know how to deal with them if you’re willing to get married to someone who has a different cultural background.

If you use email to ask what the true intention of the message is, you need to wait for a while to get the answer.

The longer it takes, the more anxious you get.

If you have already spent some time exchanging emails with your partner, why not try Skype?You can get the answer right away!Or maybe you will find that just seeing each other’s smiling face is enough to solve the problem!? :)
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For Men Who are Concerned about Her English Level

Many male clients ask if our female members are able to speak English fluently. Most of our female members graduated from a 4 year University or a 2 year Collage. In their curriculums, English is one of the major subjects which they must learn. Some of them go to extra English school to improve their English level. Looking for a lifelong partner overseas, our female members are at least making great efforts to accumulate their English skill as a community tool. However, to be honest, I don’t know what level of English our male clients expect of our female members. If their expectations are too high, it is unfair for our female members. So I would them “How is your Japanese Language skill?” or “Why are you looking for a Japanese wife?” As a second language, all our female members are challenged to communicate with you in English so, if you are a good listener, the level of their English language skill may not be a real concern.

Once in a while, there is a young woman, who comes to our office to have an interview, but she cannot communicate with our staff well in Japanese language even though she is Japanese. Perhaps, the Japanese language the young generations speak is not the same language we use. You may say it is a generation gap, but in such a case, we decline such a woman as a member since we don’t want to introduce a woman who is NOT able to communicate effectively to any gentleman.

If you are really concerned about her level of speaking and writing in English, we suggest that you email her everyday, call her everyday, let her go to an English class, and invite her to visit you in your country in order for her to get used to real everyday English. Language is not a big problem, if you and she face this challenge together, talking and listening carefully with each ones’ considerations. Communicate with her everyday, and you and she can build a stronger relationship step by step.


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Computer Access is Available for Our Guests at our Tokyo Office.

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When you visit Japan, please stop by our Tokyo office which is located in central Tokyo near Shibuya Hrajuku and Roppongi. Our friendly assistant, Miyata, is looking forward to your visit. Miyata has been managing his Marriage Introduction Service for Japanese men and Russian women for more than 10 years. So he has much experience supporting multi cultural relationships. He has brought about happy, successful couples through his work. Miyata himself has a French wife, and they have been sharing happy a life together for about 20 years. If you have a chance to visit our Tokyo office, he can offer guidance with a man’s point of view. Recently, we setup a computer with an English keyboard for our guests. All of our guests can use the internet at our Tokyo office for free. Please feel free to come and have a cup of tea and enjoy conversation with Miyata, and you will get great tips for your successful marriage. You are always welcome to visit our Tokyo office. Please call Miyata at 03-3401-6619 before visiting our Tokyo office.

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White Day

Every February 14th is one of the best, and sometimes not the best, day for a lot of people in the States. Of course we all know it as Valentine's Day. But here in Japan there is another holiday that is a reciprocate of Valentine's Day, and it is exactly one month later, on March 14th. It's called White Day. This will be the first time for a lot of people to read about White Day, but here in Japan it is everywhere, from the smallest convenience store to the most luxurious stores in Shinjuku.
In 1977, the confectionery company Ishimura Manseido, decided to start a new and very unique campaign towards the men of Japan, Marshmallow Day (マシュマロデー). This small attempt to sell more of their products to the public, would be the beginning to a very unique and now integral part of Japanese culture. Before it was even a year old in 1978, Marshmallow Day would be forever changed to White Day. And if your planning to marry a Japanese woman, this is possibly an important day to remember.
The National Confectionery Industry Association (全国飴菓子工業協同組合) in 1978, decided that Marshmallow Day could be so much more. So they set out to make a new “holiday” to be celebrated by all in Japan. The idea behind this new holiday was pretty simple, it would be the opposite of Valentine's Day. So it would be a day that men would give women gifts in response for the women giving them gifts for Valentine's Day. And, the original gifts to be given for this day were, of course, Marshmallows. So the name of this new day was changed to, White Day, for it is the color of Marshmallows. On March 14th 1978, the first ever White Day was celebrated and has been growing ever since.
This holiday has become integrated enough into Japanese culture to be marked on Japanese calendars, just like Valentine's Day is marked on American Calendars. Now at first glance this looks like another special day for men and women to really express their love to each other, just like Valentine's Day. It is and it isn't. The gifts received by men from women on Valentine's Day, may or may not be with romantic intentions. This applies to all ages, from the teenage years well into adulthood. There are usually just two different intentions behind the gift giving of Valentine's Day and White Day.
The first intention is, of course the most obvious, romantic. If a woman gives a man an expensive gift on February 14th, it is most likely with romantic intentions. And, the gifts are usually given anonymously, with the hopes that the man will figure out who sent him or left him the gift. But, a woman can also give an inexpensive gift on the same day, for a less obvious reason. This second reason is out of respect, or even as an obligation, because it is given to a co-worker, supervisor, or between best friends. So the man who receives one or more gifts needs to be able to do two things with them. One, figure out who sent you which gift (may not be as difficult as it seems) and second, decide what kind of message to send in return on White Day to the woman (or women) who sent him the gifts. Do you reciprocate the same feelings or will you just send a friend type gift ?
This exchange of gifts on Valentine's Day and White Day smooths relationships between coworkers and friends, giving an entertaining break from their busy and stressful jobs. This intent is understood and accepted in the Japanese workplace between employees and supervisors.
Originally as mentioned before White Day gifts were marketed as Marshmallows. But as the day has evolved, so has the gifts. Marshmallows can still be given, but chocolate is the number one gift given. Chocolates given with the intention of romance or love are called, honmei-choco (本命チョコ, "chocolate of love"). Chocolates given without the intention of romance are called, giri-choco (義理チョコ, "courtesy chocolate"). It's the price that separates these two intentions. Other gifts given are flowers, different types of specially wrapped candies, cookies, jewelery, white chocolate, or even white lingerie. Sometimes the term sanbai gaeshi (三倍返し, "thrice the return") is used to describe the general rule of thumb that the return gifts on White Day should be two to three times the cost of the Valentine's gift. Any of these gifts can be given as White Day gifts with either intentions. Even the lingerie can be given as an obligation gift and even in the workplace. Which would probably never be accepted in the States.
Now let's say, you have married your new Japanese wife and your living in the States while your reading this, and your thinking this doesn't apply to my relationship. You maybe right, and let's be honest ,this isn't even a real holiday. And is only celebrated in Asia. But to celebrate it in the States with your Japanese wife, shows more about your character to your wife than you might realize. First, any day of the year you can buy her a gift, whether it's expensive or not doesn't matter. “It's the thought that counts,” is a really true in any relationship in any culture. But to do it on a day that is special to her culture, and that has no significance to yours, shows that you care about not just her but you respect her culture. Just because a Japanese woman marries you and moves to the States, doesn't mean she is going to give up her identity. I know White Day isn't the most significant day over here to everyone but remembering the smaller and less significant aspects of her culture, will mean just as much and if not more, than just remembering something like her birthday.
So whether it's remembering White Day, or any other special day that is celebrated here and not in your country, is a simple but very powerful way of showing respect and love to the woman you have married or are going to marry.

HAPPY WHITE DAY!!!!

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The First Meet-up

My name is Chris, I'm 37 years old, and I have lived in Japan for three years. During my time in Japan I have had some pretty bad luck trying to find a wife, or even a girlfriend, here in Japan. I have met a lot of women through my work and through friends, but nothing has ever developed between myself and a new acquaintance . I have tried everything from multiple dating sites, going to singles parties, and I have spent a lot of time in bars and clubs. For multiple reasons I have just not been able to meet a woman who desires the same future as I do.

Recently while searching on the internet I had discovered a small, but growing company, Meet Japan Lady. So after reviewing their website and the information provided, I signed up as a trial member. One of their best selling points for myself was that they personally interviewed every member, to make sure that they were very serious about getting married. This really impressed me that their was a company that cared enough about their clients to screen out anyone who might not have the correct intentions and feelings. Then I received an email about joining the company on their Meetup.com group page, which was announcing that they were having a meeting of clients who lived in Japan at their Tokyo office. So I sent in my RSVP, and on January 23rd, I headed to Tokyo for my first meeting with other Meet Japan Lady clients.

So I traveled for over 2 hours by train to Tokyo, before arriving at the meeting location. Since the meeting was scheduled a couple of weeks prior to Valentines Day, I had gotten up early, and made Valentines gifts of individual boxes of chocolate with flowers tied to them with silk ribbons. I had made about 20 of them, which was perfect because in the end there were almost as many people who showed up. I was the first member to arrive and for about 5 minutes I was by myself. The room was small and the white painted walls were pretty bare, except for a couple of posters and a clock. Down the center of the room there were some tables with names taped in front of the seats, one table off to the side, a white board, and a small office sofa. I took this time to lay out a box of chocolate in front of each seat and put the extras on the side table. As I finished, three female members walked in, and we started to introduce ourselves.

Slowly people started to arrive, carrying with them different snacks and drinks to share with everyone. Naoko arrived with her husband and some more members, as she said some quick greetings to some of the members. She asked everyone to please feel free to help themselves to the food and drinks everyone had brought, including some refreshments she had supplied. Everyone put together plates of snack foods and poured themselves some refreshments. Once everyone was settled in their chairs, Naoko started the meeting.

Naoko introduced herself, her husband Roland, Mr. Miyata (who runs the Tokyo office), and gave a brief introduction of her company and the services they supply. Her husband Roland then introduced himself, how he and Naoko had met, and shared some of their life after marriage (including a new baby). After Roland had finished, some questions were asked, and then all of the members started to introduce themselves. Each member shared their basic information, their current situation, what they were looking for in a potential spouse, and the future they would like to share with their new spouse. As each member finished, Naoko would always ask if anyone had any questions. Other members always asked questions, including Naoko. This continued until every member had a chance to share themselves with the group, then questions were asked and answered. There were even a couple of members who were actually well into the processes of meeting their potential spouse, and were very helpful by sharing their personal experiences with the services provided. Naoko then finished the meeting off with some more helpful information to help each member. After she was done sharing her useful information, the meeting was finished. So everyone helped to clean up, and then we were given the chance to mingle for a little while. Then, slowly people started to leave.

I attended this meeting as a trial member and I didn't know what to expect. I was pretty nervous because of my track record with meeting women here in Japan. I was also nervous about what others would think and say about my feelings towards my own personal experiences and my thoughts on the cultural differences. And, when I first walked into the small meeting room, I thought it wasn't quite the right setting for people to be sharing such personal feelings and dreams. But all of those first impressions and my personal feelings had changed by the end of the meeting.

They had been changed because of many reasons but most of all from the way the company is run by Naoko. From the very beginning you could tell she really cared about every member, and she really is concerned that members meet a spouse that will be able to take care of them and truly love them. To call this a company makes it sounds like it might be another cold and unfeeling marriage arrangement company, but it is not. It's very comforting that when you have questions and concerns, she is always there to help and answer questions. Since she personally interviews the members, you can rest assured that you are only going to be introduced to like minded women. This is not a dating service, where members are looking for just casual relationships or just rich husbands. The personal touches that her service provides, I have found to be unmatched by other agencies and dating sites.

I had traveled a long way and spent a lot of money on gifts for people I didn't even know, but I would do it all over again if it meant I would have the same experiences as I did with this first meeting. I found the meeting to be very helpful and encouraging. I learned a lot from the other members, including what to expect from a Japanese wife, their expectations from a foreign husband, and many other cultural differences. And during the meeting I could see the other members were just as nervous as I was, but everyone was so kind and caring towards each other, that by the end of the meeting everyone, had a very good, positive, and rewarding experience. Everyone walked out with a smile on their face and the assurance that we are in good hands with Naoko and her services. I honestly can't wait until there is another meeting and I'm very grateful to have found this company.

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Do You Want to Be On TV???

Hello Male Members,

Two TV production companies contacted us last week, one is in Japan and the other is in Chicago. They are looking for couples who want to share their marriage stories on TV ASAP.

Here is the description from the company Chicago. I will send you the producer’s contact if you are interested. (MJL members only.)
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Hello Naoko,

Pleasure speaking with you. Again, I work in development at Towers Productions in Chicago. The company was founded in 1989, and has produced over one thousand hours of factual and entertainment programming for US and international television networks including A&E, Animal Planet, bio. - The Biography Channel, CNN, Discovery Channel, History, ID: Investigation Discovery, Lifetime, MSNBC, NBC, National Geographic Channel, PBS, TLC, Travel Channel, tru TV, VERSUS, WGN and The Weather Channel. Among the Company’s signature series are American Justice and Biography (A&E), The Final Report (National Geographic Channel), Storm Stories (The Weather Channel) and the syndicated comedy series Sports Action Team.

We are developing a television special documenting arranged marriage for a major cable network. We are looking for people who are currently in the matching process or have been married and are willing to share their experience. We want to educate viewers on all aspects of the tradition and incorporate all types of backgrounds. We are looking to tell the stories from the point of view of the
participants. The more variety, the better!

Anyone interested should please email with your name, age, contact info, state/country you live in, and tell us a bit about your experience with arranged marriage (if you are currently in the matching process, how far along are you?). Please attach a recent photo if possible. There is no commitment at this time, this is just a chance for us to get to know a bit about you.

Please feel free to pass along my info to anyone with an interesting story to share. Thanks so much for your time and have a wonderful day.

Casting Director
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The description from Japan is written in Japanese, but I will send you the producer’s contact if you are interested. (MJL members only.)

Thank you for your help!


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MEETUP in TOKYO – Feedback from a Lady

MJL’s Meetup in TOKYO was held on SAT JAN 23 2010 at our Tokyo office. 10 of our female members and 2 male guests attended. Thank you all who attended! We enjoyed the discussion style meetup we had. Discussion style meetup is greater than speed dating or party style if you want to understand one’s personality deeply in a short time. Japanese women are not used to speaking up, so this discussion style format allowed them to feel comfortable enough to express their thoughts openly. MJL’s meetup is also a great opportunity show their language level and communication skill in a short time. One of the male attendees brought a small gift chocolate with a tulip flower on each box. It was a pretty gift for everyone. Our ladies liked his sensitive personality, and he was asked by some of our female members to start corresponding with him after the meetup! WOW! MJL Meetup really works!!!

The following message is from one of out female members. She attended our meetup in Baltimore last summer, and she is planning to join our meetup in Los Angeles this summer. She is corresponding with one of our male members, and she is positive about her future.

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Dear Naoko san,

Thank you very much for holding a meetup in Tokyo. It was a great opportunity for me to exchange ideas about international relationships with other members.
I really enjoyed the conversation we had there.

Since Japanese women tend to be a little bit shy at first, I felt that the meetup started in a rather quiet atmosphere. The good thing was that both of the male members who attended at the meet up had already lived in Japan for a while and were familiar with how Japanese women tend to act at the first meeting.
I thought that they were very good at leading the meeting in more relaxed atmosphere. They broke the ice very smoothly!

It was also very impressive that they often encouraged the female members to speak out more freely. There was one female member who was to visit her boyfriend in the States in a few weeks. She was communicating with her boyfriend every day using Skype for the present. What she told us was that she sometimes feels a little bit of stress when she cannot express her feeling well in English. The advice from the male members was to feel free to speak out and let
the boyfriend try to understand. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes.

I agree with them!

It’s OK to make mistakes, since English is not our first language. What is more important is that your partner should try to understand you even if your English is not perfect. If you don’t say anything, there’s no way that your boyfriend understand you, right? So I think it was a great suggestion from the male members that female members should speak out more freely when they communicate with their foreign partners.

In my opinion, men need some effort too if they want to succeed in an international relationship. They have to be understanding and patient when they communicate with Japanese women need to understand that expressing feelings in foreign language is sometimes very difficult and challenging. They have to be aware that there also might be a cultural difference in the way of expression.

I think being a good listener is the key to success for men. Luckily my boyfriend is a great listener and he’s also very very patient! He can wait forever until I come up with a word I wanted to say. Even if I cannot find the best way to express my feeling in English, he is good at guessing what I’m trying to say. I realized that Naoko san’s husband is also a good listener.

I like it when men create a comfortable environment and encourage women to speak their mind.

Effective communication is the key to all relationship, and communication shouldn’t be a one-way thing. I think that mutual understanding is very important especially in an international relationship.

MJL’s Meetup is a great chance to exchange ideas about learning effective communication. I recommend MJL members to experience this meetup to get hints for better communication. And I hope that the experience leads them to either a start of new relationships or continuous happy relationships!

Again, thank you so much for the meetup.Please take care and hope to see you sometime again in the future!



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Announcing Singles Meetup in Tokyo

We will have a Meetup in Tokyo soon!

Please signup from here http://meetjapanlady.com/meetup_form.htm if you are interested in attending our Tokyo Meetup.
Don't miss this exciting event!

Date: Jan 23 2010 Sat
Place : Meet Japan Lady Tokyo Office

We will send you detailed info after you signed up.

Who may attend? :
This exclusive opportunity is open to anyone who is a FULL MEMBER of MJL, and who has already made their own profile on Meet Japan Lady's website is welcome!

If you haven't made your own profile yet:
Please send your BEST photos of yourself to MJL.
You may send your photos by replying to this email with your photos attached.
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Who will attend? :
On the next newsletter, we will announce our female members who will attend the Meetup in Tokyo. Some of new ladies have already signed up.

What will happen and why you should attend?
This is an awesome opportunity to meet some of our finest female members in person at one time! And then:

1) We introduce each other.
2) We talk, talk, and talk about many cultural differenct issues.
3) You can communicate with our female members in person in this friendly atmosphere.
4) You can experience how our marriage introduction service works.
5) The founder and CEO of Meet Japan lady, Naoko, and her American husband, Roland, will attend the Meetup in Tokyo this time, so you can ask any questions about our system and also you can ask Roland how a Japanese wife is wonderful!
6) MJL cofounder, Miyata, who interviews our female members at our Tokyo office also will attend. If he meets with you in person, he can introduce you to ladies when they come to the office for an interview.
7) All of our female members are marriage minded, so joining our meetup is a great opportunity to start relationships with our beautiful Japanese women. You can ask them out on dates as well.

We have been holding MJL Meetups in Baltimore, Los Angeles, and Tokyo since 2007, and many members who attended started a relationship at the Meetup and later got married. We believe that our Meetups really work well!


If you are not able to attend the Meetup in Tokyo this time, we can arrange individual meetings with our female members at our Tokyo office at your convenience. Please let us know when you plan to visit Japan at least 2 month before your trip so that we may plan accordingly.

Also, in order to provide a better experience for everyone, we are having fewer Meetups this year. Here is our schedule:

May 1 SAT in Baltimore
June in Los Angeles (We will announce the date and time soon.)
September 19 SUN in Baltimore

I look forward to meeting you at our Meetups in 2010!

Naoko
CEO, Founder Meet Japan Lady
http://MeetJapanLady.com

Baltimore: http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/
LA: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-LA-Meet-Japan-Lady/
Tokyo: http://www.meetup.com/Singles-Tokyo-Meet-Japan-Lady-MeetUp/



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Difficulty for Japanese Women Traveling into the US

I would like to inform our male members that it is much easier for them to travel to Japan than it is for our female members to travel into the US. For some reason, US immigration is very restrictive about Single Japanese women traveling into the US, and many are interrogated harshly and/or denied entry. Since this is a possible occurrence for our female members, we ask our male members to take this into consideration and elect to travel to Japan to visit our female members. This has the added bonus that our male members will get a better understanding and appreciation of Japanese culture, a closer connection to our female members, and is the easiest option for everyone.
Here is a scary account of entering the US from one of our female members.

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Every time I travel to the US, going through immigration is the worst part of the trip. It is frustrating and process sometimes seems to kill the souls of those behind the counter no matter which country they are in. Standing in line (the immigration line for non-residents is beyond belief), waiting with many other non-residents, and dealing with the clerk, who looked like they had never smiled in their entire life, looked at me like I was a murderer trying to ask for a knife. (I do not think that my Passport picture look like I where shoved up against a wall for a mug shot though.)

This sounds like an unbelievable story, but it happened to me. I was not detained and interrogated by US Immigration when I arrived in the U.S. two years ago for visiting my girlfriend, but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. It appears that the immigration people simply did not believe that I was visiting my girlfriend. This is insane. They took me to the other room (not including a humiliating strip search. Phew.) asking me if I really was visiting my boyfriend. Which I understand could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. I assured immigration people I had no intention of doing so. Hey! I was visiting my girlfriend! Really! I know that they are trained to spot certain behaviors that may be suspicious. But I was completely innocent ( like I said, I really was visiting my girlfriend...not boyfriend. Well I wish... but I have no luck with that though.) and just have a lot of worries on my mind I guess. And you know if you make them feel that you are very nervous they will become suspicious. Immigration officers was very interested in questioning me with several additional options such as ‘How did you meet this friend? ', 'What is your occupation?', 'What do you do for XYZ company?', ‘What is your position?’, and ‘what town do you live in?' etc... Honestly though, I felt angry though. I am not a drug trafficker or intend to commit a crime. However; Immigration officers have the power to deny you entry to a country, so I kept being honest but be straight and to the point. I would not say that this appears to be disgraceful behavior on their part, because immigration officers play an important role in international security...but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though.


And there is another story... This time, I was asked to get my luggage and 'go to that room' after trying to get through at customs when I visited another friend in the U.S. The guy in there was very brisk and unfriendly( I know they just doing their job but still... you know) and immediately took to a thorough search of my luggage (including my very personal belonging too) and lots of questions about the purpose of my visit. I do not remember the details very clearly, and the details aren't yet clear on exactly why I was asked to get my luggage and I do not know why it went down. The guy at the desk asked what the real purpose of my visit was, and I told him I was on holidays and I was visiting my friend. He also asked how long I intended to stay, and I told him 8 days. He said I can not stay longer than 90 days, I told him I knew that and would not. He asked how much money I had with me. He also asked some other questions, but I don't remember them. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though-- having re-packed my luggage myself, of course.


Every single time when I go through U.S. immigration... I would have to have a lot of worries on my mind. It may help to show that I have a job, savings, family back in Japan which proves that I have ties requiring me to go home and honesty is usually the best policy? But telling customs I'm here for visiting my boyfriend is almost definitely a bad idea. This could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. So the best course is to say I am merely visiting a friend, and leave out all the romantic stuff? But at the same time, I would think is lying to customs like this likely to get me in trouble somewhere down the line? Can they check up on this stuff? Do not ever lie to immigration. I should to be clear on how honest I should be about this. But maybe don't lie, but be having a decent story straight and stick to it? During the questioning obviously do not lie but never volunteer extra information? Just answer the basic question? Simply say I am visiting a friend? If they want more details by asking more questions then just answer them as they come? I believe that I do not have to the official everything about my life? etc...


So, I hope you now have some ideas of going through immigration can be very frustrating for Japanese travelers arriving in the US. Especially single woman can stand out repeatedly. Really. There is not much you can do about it. If your lady decides to say that she is visiting a friend, it can be nice for her to have someone that they can call to corroborate her story. I have no idea what sort of information they store, but it seems likely to me that they're going to ask something about her boyfriend(could be you), or be suspicious that she is now returning to the same area, but this time visiting a ' friend '.

Please, always remember for your beautiful Japanese lady, that Immigration officers have the power to deny her entry to your country, and they can ask for the phone number of her boyfriend (could be you) and call him (could be you) to corroborate her story. Additionally please keep in mind for your lady that U.S. immigration laws are changing constantly.

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They’re engaged!

I received a message from one of our male members who is Canadian, that he got engaged to one of our female members (#F17146) last month!



This is great news! Congratulations to both of you! I am happy for you both!!!

I would like to share his happiness with everyone, so as to encourage all of our male members. You can also be the next happily engaged man if you follow MJL’s recommendations found on our website and you are completely open and honest with us, which helps us better help you.

Here is his message to MJL:

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Hello Naoko,

I just wanted to share some happy new with you. Last weekend, J(a woman’s name) and I got engaged! She came to Toyama and I took her out to a nice French restaurant. There I proposed to her and she accepted. I gave her an engagement ring! We had a wonderful evening together going to a cocktail bar and also seeing some live Jazz. We are both extremely happy and plan to have our wedding next summer on August 15th in Vancouver. Maybe you can join us for our celebration! Here are some pictures of our engagement!

Thank you again for introducing Junko to me. I never thought I`d be able to find the lady of my dreams, but now I have! Thank you very much!!!


Regards,


M.T.(Canada)

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He attended our Tokyo meetup in 2008, where I met him at our office. Since his smile was impressive, I found him a wonderful woman.

I highly recommend all of our male members to attend our meetups since they are a great opportunity for you to meet our female members in person, and it allows MJL to learn about our male members so that we may better assist you in finding your correct match.


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Do You Dream of Living a Fairy Tale Life in Japan with a Stunningly Beautiful Japanese Lady?

A cute young Japanese lady, who is 28 years old (F10014) is dreaming of meeting one special man to share her life with in Japan. If you feel that you could be that special man, then signup now to see her photo and detailed profile! If you are already a member, ask Naoko for more information!


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Are you interested in a Japanese nurse as a wife?

My friend owns a nursing school in Los Angeles exclusively for Japanese women. He said many of his students are interested in getting married to American men. All his students have already a RN certificate in Japan, and they are studying to get a RN certificate in the US. However, since the US government changed a key law that now limits foreign nurses working in the US, so his students can not work in the US even though they have passed the US NCLEX-RN examination.

The nurse students ages range 25-40.

Good points to meet Japanese nurses are as follows.

• Since they are living in LA, meetings are easy to set up.
• They can work after getting married and it is not difficult to find a professional job as a nurse.
• Japanese women work hard, and they can help with supporting family since RNs are independent in the US, and they are paid well.
• Their English writing and speaking abilities are excellent since they came to study in the US.
• Since there women are professionally focused, they are independent financially and mentally.
• They learned about health, so they have the skills and the passion for taking care of people.
• As a profession, they are good at taking care of people!
  
  In conclusion, getting married to a Japanese nurse makes your family life stable, and your choice also gives them a great opportunity and confidence to work as a nurse in the US.
  
  
  If you are interested in Japanese nurses who are studying in Los Angeles,
  please let us know.
  
  
  
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Which would you prefer, Japanese women living in the US or Japan?

I received the following message from one of our male members.

“One who lives in States for long time - I like, but too much time here may take away beautiful Japanese woman inside. I don’t want American women! ”

He is right.

Japanese women who have been in the US for a long time may become Americanized.

To be honest, I realized that I am getting stronger than I used to be in Japan. Why? I have been here in the US for more than 5 years! Living in the US is challenging for me. Everyone has to be strong, independent, and confident in order to survive in this country. So I feel compelled to be like an American since I live in the US. However, even though Japanese women who have been living in the US for years may act American, they still have their traditional Japanese soul inside.

Traditional Japanese women are taught by their parents respect, contribution, and loyalty toward their husband. It is said that good wife walks 3 steps behind her husband. Growing up I saw my mother follow that custom. She wakes up earlier than my father, and prepares breakfast everyday. She does not start eating before my father has his chopsticks in his hand. She always takes a bath after he does. She doesn’t go to bed before he does. When he leaves for his office in the morning, she opens the gate for him and waves good bye until his car disappears around the corner. She opens the door for him when he returns home. She tells her children to listen to their father. She always says “Yes” to him because she knows following my father’s opinion creates a harmonious relationship. In Japan, wife and husband are not exactly equal, but there is good harmony in the family.

I learned Japanese ways of showing respect, contribution, and loyalty from my parents, and I know that is why my parents continue their marriage for a long time. And I appreciate it and I try not to forget what my parents taught me even though I live in the US.

For better or for worse, living in the US makes Japanese women stronger and more American. Fortunately, I like to think, most Japanese women still retain their traditional Japanese values inside their heart.


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Do You Expect Your Japanese Wife to Speak Perfect English?

Some men ask me about our female members’ English skill. They believe that Japanese women who are finding western husband MUST have perfect English speaking, listening and writing abilities.

I say that most of our female members have good English conversational skills, however, as English is a second language for them, they most likely do not speak it perfectly. Thus, if you are interested in a Japanese wife, it would be helpful to be a good listener.

I think I should ask our male members about their Japanese language skills. Most of the men who require high standards of English skills for Japanese women have never learned a second language. They possibly do not understand how hard it is to learn a second language.

My husband has lived in Germany for two years. So he can speak German, but he never learned Japanese. However, he is a very good listener. He is never upset whenever we encounter miscommunications regarding the English language. He always listens to me carefully, and he gives me a hint of how to say it in English. So we find solutions together. Also, whenever we watch DVDs at home, when I hear words that I don’t understand in the movie, he puts the pause button on and rewinds and explains the meaning. I appreciate his efforts and patience. Because of his help, my English skills are increasing little by little　after getting married. Also, my husband helps by proofreading my writings including the one you are reading now.

Regarding your future marriage life with a Japanese wife, I think that language itself is not as important as being a good listener with respect and love.



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June Bride in Hawaii

One of our successful couples sent us some photos of their wedding in Hawaii.
He was an American living in Hawaii who visited Japan to meet female members last summer.
During his first visit to Japan, he proposed marriage to her.

Her answer was “YES!”

In the past year, their lives have improved dramatically! It has been a dream come true for both of them! They will move into a beautiful new house in Hawaii and they are expecting a baby in November!



I am very happy for them!



I hope….
You are next YOU!!!

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Singles MeetUp in LA

Here is the announcement from Meet Japan Lady.com

We are planning to do a Singles MeetUp for single Japanese women and single American men in Los Angeles.

Cost: around $20 for lunch buffet:
When: Sun, June 7th 2009 11:30am
Where: At a restaurant in Orange county.
Who is this meetup fo?:
Every gentleman who is interested in finding a Japanese wife is welcome!
Every Japanese lady who is interested in finding an American husband is welcome!

For more information, please read the following website.
http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/

About this event:
http://www.meetup.com/Meet-Japan-Lady/about/

About us:
http://meetjapanlady.com/

I am looking forward to meeting with you in Los Angeles!
Naoko
President
MeetJapanLady.com

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Green Baby was Just Born!

Our Green Baby boy was born on Jan 22, 2009.
The due date was Feb 23rd, so he came to us a month early.

We named him “YUMA”.
Although nobody in our family is Native American,
“YUMA” means chief’s son in a Native American language.

I like the name “YUMA” because it can be a Japanese name,
so it is easy for my Japanese family to call him.
“YUMA” means “SPECTACULAR, UNIVERSE” in Japanese “悠真”
And also it means “THOROUGHBRED” in Japanese “優馬”
I like the name “YUMA”, because it is an unique name in America.
I hope that when he is old enough to understand his name,
he also likes it as much as I do.

YUMA is half Japanese and a quarter American and German.
My husband said that he will teach him English and German.
I want to teach him Japanese!
He has to study hard!! Oh, poor boy!


Why do we call him “Green Baby”?
Because we hope that he is growing up in nature,
in our wild garden, surrounded by plants and animals.

We sent holiday cards to my friends last December.














And then my friend sent us the following picture!










We are happy to be given “YUMA”.
He is the most precious gift I have ever been given.


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OMAMORI

I became pregnant.
It is an amazing experience for me and my husband.

Recently, I received a surprising gift from a male client.
He visited Tokyo in May to meet one of our female members,
and he visited her again this summer to spend his vacation with her.

They traveled to Kansai area to see historic Japanese temples.
Then they found an OMAMORI, a good luck charm for having a baby safely, when they went to Enryakuji temple, one of the greatest historic temples in Japan..
http://www.hieizan.or.jp/

Here is a picture of OMAMORI.















Japanese people believe that these tiny charms protect you from any bad fortunes.
There are some different kinds of OMAMORI which are for safe driving, for happy family, for blessing a newborn, for good grade, for business success, for good health, and so on.
You will get them in shrines and temples in Japan.

He mailed it to us as a gift, since he knows I am got pregnant.
We are so happy to receive such a wonderful gift!
Thank you very much.

Here is the testimonial from him.
http://www.meetjapanlady.com/testimonials_c.htm



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New Website!

Greetings all,

We have fabulous news!
Our website has just been redone!

http://MeetJapanLady.com


We are offering a onetime special deal for membership right now.
As a special client, we are offering a FREE Trial membership to YOU!

Please hurry!
This special offer ends June 15, 2008.

We are looking forward to hearing from you soon!
Warm regards,
Naoko / CEO and Advisor


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Sakura Ga Sakimashita

Sakura Ga Sakimashita

Did you know about the story of cherry trees in Washington D.C.?
Cherry blossoms are enhancing the friendship between the U.S. and Japan.
http://aranishi.hobby-web.net/3web_ara/sakura_e.htm




My friend in Japan sent me a picture today.










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Our Wedding in Japan

My husband, his parents and I just came back from Japan. The main purpose of this trip was to have our wedding ceremony in Japan in the Japanese style. Finally, we had our beautiful wedding ceremony! We first got married in the US in October 2006. Unfortunately, I couldn’t leave the US until after I got my greencard in June 2007. Having a wedding ceremony in Japan was my parents’ wish, and I am happy that their dream came true.

I think it was also a wonderful experience for my parents in law. My husband and I each wore a traditional Japanese KIMONO first for the wedding ceremony, and then changed into a contemporary western dress and tuxedo for the wedding reception. It was the first experience for my husband and his mother to wear KIMONO, and she looked gorgeous!


Look at my big head, or as my husband says, “The Bird Nest!”.

This is the typical Japanese wedding style.





It was the first big event in our life, and it should be the last wedding in our life, hopefully.

Naoko

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The Most Popular Christmas Song in Japan

Here is the most popular Christmas song in Japan.
This song is sung by Tatsuro Yamashita.
Since this song is famous for the TV commercial of JR Tokai, which is the train company, everyone knows it! If you are walking around the street in Tokyo around Christmas time, you will hear this song all the time. As you see in this TV commercial, in Japan, Christmas day is the day when lovers spend time together. Most of the hotel rooms in Tokyo are booked by couples, and it is a lonely day for a single person.

JR Tokai CM --- Christmas Express


Christmas Eve by Tatsuro Yamashita (English Version)


This song is also a popular Christmas song in Japan!
Last Christmas by WHAM!


So, I will be happy to help you find your Miss Right in Japan!
Happy Holidays!

Naoko

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Sukiyaki Song

Ue wo muite arukou Kyu Sakamoto –






If you want to sing a Japanese song at Karaoke,
I highly recommend this beautiful Japanese song!

The song is called “SUKIYAKI,” and originally sung by Kyu Sakamoto.

He is famous all over the world.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sukiyaki_%28song%29

SUKIYAKI Song won the first prize on the billboard chart in the US in 1963.
Unfortunately, Kyu Sakamoto was killed in a plane crash in 1985.

Although he passed away, his beautiful song still remains in everyone’s heart.


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Why I Escaped from Japan?

Because.....

But I like this.....



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Western Men, Be the Boss!

The relationship between men and women in Japan is quite different from how it is in the western countries. In Japan, the ratio of the power dynamic between a husband and wife is NOT “50/50”. Generally, it is about “70/30”. (Perhaps it is my opinion.) So, sometimes, when a man starts to communicate with a Japanese woman, he might get off the wrong foot because of the cultural difference.

For Example, when you date, you might ask her
“Where would you like to drive?”
Then she answers,
“Wherever…..”
Or, when you eat at the fancy restaurant with her, you might ask her
“What would you like to eat?”
And she might answer,
“whatever”
or
”I would like the same as your order.”
She doesn’t say what she wants to do or what she wants to eat exactly, yet she is waiting for his decision first.
In most of the western countries, it is generally accepted as the norm that each person is free to make his/her own decision or to come to an agreement after discussion. However, in Japan, a woman expects a man to decide for both of them. She expects him to be a strong leader whom she can follow. In Japan, the male dominated society has existed since “The Samurai Period”, and it still continues in the 21st century. In order to promulgate a harmonious relationship with a Japanese woman, I advise you to be the “boss”, almost like most Japanese men, but in a friendlier way. When you date a Japanese woman, it would be better that you give her the direction. So, as in my previous example, it is better for you to decide where to dine and to suggest the special yummy dishes. And then, she will feel more comfortable with you. The ratio 70/30, this is one of the keys for good communication with a Japanese woman.


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