Romance Scammers

Do you know about the phrase “Romance Scammer”?
They sneak around online dating sites pretending to be a person who is looking for a partner. However, their purpose is not to find sincere love, rather they are looking for money and/or sex. They use somebody else’s photos, and their profiles are all fake.
We have many applications from male members all over the world every day. Unfortunately, some of the applicants are detected as romance scammers. We at MJL place a high priority of having high standards for our members in order to provide our members with a top quality experience with the best results, and to keep everyone safe.

In order to protect our clients, we screen each applicant carefully. This is why some people say that MJL's qualifications are too strict or the documents that MJL requires are too personal. However, we believe that screening our male clients by requiring certain documents is the best way to ascertain who the qualified applicants are and who are not since all transactions are done through the internet.

Fortunately, we have never had any major issues with false identities of our members since we started our matchmaking company in 1999. I think it is because of our unique system where we require male members to visit Japan to meet our female clients for their first meeting. Male members have to spend a lot of time and money for one visit. And usually, one of our staff members attends the meeting. For romance scammers, becoming a member of MJL does not make sense for them since the costs and time involved are too high. 

On the other hand, we require all our female members to visit our Tokyo office before signing up for Full Membership. They come to our office in Tokyo even though they may live as far away as Okinawa or Hokkaido and they have an interview with our staff, and sometimes their conversations last for more than 3 hours! Romance scammers would not make this much effort or take this much risk to visit our office and meet with our staff. Up to this time, we have never had a female applicant romance scammer!

We have heard from some of our male clients of how they were victims of international dating and marriage fraud in other Asian countries when using other dating websites or marriage agencies.

If you google “romance scammer”, you will see examples of these scams. 
One important lesson to keep in mind in order to avoid being scammed is to never send someone money if you have never met them in person. Some people may feel that he or she truly knows or trusts someone after corresponding with him or her through the internet over a long period of time, but you will only really know a person when you actually meet him or her in person.

I hope all people who are looking for their ideal partners are careful for their safety.
MJL only welcomes clients who are looking for sincere love and happy marriage!

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Living in a Gun Society

Many of our male members visited our Tokyo office to meet our female members at the end of the year in Dec. to New Year’s Eve.　It was our busiest month of all year.

One of our male members talked with Miyata about the gun which he keeps in his house.
He said if he finds a partner, she needs to practice shooting to protect herself.

We all know about the tragic news in the US of the innocent people killed by a person with many guns. Some people say that they need more guns to protect themselves, and other people say that guns need to be controlled.

As you can see, this issue is controversial and it will take time to come to an agreement.

Anyway, as a Japanese native it is hard to imagine that ordinary people in the US can easily own guns. And we have heard from one of our female members who visited her date in the US and he showed her his guns. And she felt scared to live with a man with guns. I would feel the same way.

I am not arguing for or against gun ownership in the US at this time. However, I think that it is necessary for American men to share with their Japanese wives about gun ownership responsibilities and how you feel about guns. Japanese women don’t even know that owning guns is legal in the US.

Perhaps more importantly, all guns in the home should be locked up securely. This is especially important when there are children in the house. Many children die every year from accidental gun shootings.

Your Japanese wife to be should be informed if you have guns, and she should understand your thoughts of having guns. Also wife and husband should talk about possible dangers in daily life and how to protect themselves.

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“I am going to marry in 2013!”

あけましておめでとうございます。

Akemashite Omedeto Goazaimasu.

本年もよろしくお願いします。
Honnennmo Yoroshiku Onegaisimasu!!

Happy New Year Everyone!

Have you made a New Year’s Resolution for 2013?

If not, let us suggest a simple sentence for you.
“I am going to marry in 2013!!!”

Words are powerful, and they can give you encouragement.

If you say this sentence out loudly,

“I am going to marry in 2013!!!”

It will happen so.

We wish you a wonderful year in 2013!!!

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Sat Jan 12th 2013 : A Special Members Only Private Event With Luna + Her American Husband

We will have a Special Members Only Private Event in January!

Now is the time to make your New Year's Resolution and take action to create the happy married life you've always dreamed about! Attending this special event is a great way to accelerate your opportunity of meeting a special Japanese woman who will make your life meaningful.

This is a great opportunity to meet with some of our female members and talk in a private setting. Our special guests include Luna and her American husband who are looking forward to sharing about their wonderful life in America, and one of our female members who recently had her wedding ceremony in December will share about her special day. She has just applied for her fiance visa and is getting ready to relocate to her husband's country. Also, Miyata, one of our matchmakers who interviews our female clients in at our Tokyo office, will be available to talk with about your desired match.

There are limited spaces available for this special members only event, so register today if you are serious about improving your life!

Date & Time : Sat Jan 12^th 2013, 1pm-3pm
Place: To be announced soon!
Fee: 2000yen or $25


Who will attend:

Some of our female Full Members
One of our female members who had a wedding ceremony in December 2012.
Matchmaker Miyata who interviews our femle members at our office.

Matchmaker Luna and her American husband (Who is Luna?)

Who can attend:

MJL Trial Members
MJL Full Members

How to attend:
If you would like to attend this special meeting, please follow the instructions below.

1) If you are not a Trial or Full Member, apply here first.
http://www.meetjapanlady.com/form_free/
2) To register for this event, click the following link http://www.meetjapanlady.com/contact.htm

3) Fill out the contact form. Choose “Meeting Event” from the title.

4) Send your name and your Trial/ Full Member number.

5) You will receive the paypal link in order to make a payment for the event fee.

6) You will receive the Event Confirmation after we confirm your payment.

Only a few seats are left, so please take action today!

We look forward to meeting with you on Sat Jan 12^th, 2013!

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IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT: MJL Holiday Schedule

USA Branch Holiday Schedule: Dec 25^th-Jan 6^th

Tokyo Office Holiday Schedule: Normal business hours

Tokyo office is open for our VIP clients who have already scheduled meetings with our female members. Miyata at Tokyo office will be away from the office most of February. If you want to visit our office in Tokyo, please before or after February.

During our holiday schedule, we are happy to accept your emails, however, please keep in mind that we will only be responding to emails after our holiday schedule has ended. If you have an urgent matter, please write “URGENT” in your email’s subject line. We will try our best to respond to any Urgent emails, but cannot guarantee that we will.

During our holiday schedule, we are not accepting any appointments for FREE CONSULTATIONS. We will start accepting FREE CONSULTATION appointments beginning on Jan 6^th 2012.

We wish you Happy Holidays!

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Japanese Women May Test You Especially During the Holidays

One of our friends Paul who is in his early 40’s recently had some friction with his girlfriend.

He didn't invite her to his family’s Thanksgiving dinner although he and she are in an exclusive relationship. So, she spent a lonely and sad thanksgiving without him. She may have thought, “Am I really his girlfriend?”

In his defense, Paul said that his mother told him not to invite his girlfriend to their family Thanksgiving dinner since he took different girlfriends every year, and last Thanksgiving, he took his provocatively dressed Russian girlfriend and Paul's mother didn't approve. Also, he wanted to take this relationship slower and not rush into anything. His girlfriend seemed unhappy after Thanksgiving and him know that she wondered why he did not invite her to his family’s gatherings.

Next, he was wondering if he should invite her to his family’s Christmas dinner. He finally decided not to invite her to his family’s Christmas gathering either since it was out of state and he would be spending over a week there to take part in spiritual gatherings afterwards.

Well, my female opinion is that if he had been dating her for more than three months as his girlfriend, that it would have been preferable for him to invite her and introduce her to his family during the holidays. Since he did not do this, she found out his true feelings. This is the way women or men may ‘test’ the merits of a relationship. The holidays is an especially good time to test how much your partner cares about you if she or he is willing to invite you to his or her family’s gatherings. If you partner does not invite you to his or her family’s holiday gatherings, perhaps it is a sign that he or she does not think much about you and it may be time to end the relationship.

If Paul’s girlfriend is really looking for a man who is sincere for marriage, it would be better to say goodbye to him and start to open a new door. If she really wants to find that special someone and start a family, she doesn’t have much time to wait for his answer. Men need to understand women’s needs more, and if you like her and also would like to start a family, show her how much she means to you by inviting her to your family holiday gatherings. The holidays are a real test of relationships and will let you know how much your partner cares about you. So, the holidays can either bring you closer together or tear your relationship apart.

If your mom is not ready to accept her as your girlfriend, that is fine. The way around this conundrum is to celebrate a special Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner for just you and her, so that she feels special to you and she will be happier than just staying at home alone.

I told my husband about the time I was living in Los Angeles, I had a similar experience as Paul’s girlfriend. At that time, I had a lonely thanksgiving and Christmas even though I believed I had a boyfriend. Afterwards, I realized that my boyfriend did not consider me special enough to invite me to his family’s gatherings, and I ended the relationship with him. It was hard for me, but I think it was the right decision. After that I met my husband and I enjoy the holidays with my family now.

My husband told my story to Paul, and said to him, “Women are checking on you during the holidays!” This a big test of your relationship’s strength.

I hope my friend Paul will be able to celebrate the holidays with his girlfriend this year.

  

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If You Are Too Busy, Make Time for Your Relationship!

If You Are Too Busy, Make Time for Your Relationship!

I received an application for a Free Consultation from one of our female members, and she canceled it and told us to postpone.

I said OK, and we setup the appointment for her again.

Actually, it was the third time that she canceled and postponed the appointment for the Skype consultation.

And every time, she says “I am too busy.”

We would like for her to enjoy her membership to the fullest and to support her efforts of creating a wonderful relationship, however, if she is too busy to make time to even have a consultation with us, how can we possibly help her?

I am really concerned about her situation and want to help her. The question for her is how can she make time for a relationship with one of our male members? And, how will she change her busy lifestyle in order to create the time and space in her life that is necessary for a relationship and eventual marriage?

Obviously, marriage is not a simple process; it is one’s lifelong journey of creating a harmonious and fulfilling relationship which you and your partner work together. And, in a marriage you and your partner will encounter relationship issues good and bad perhaps everyday. Therefore, one must allow for the time and space in one life to be married and be fully committed to one’s partner. To have a successful relationship in a marriage, one must place the marriage at the top of one’s priority list in life. Nothing else, including work and friends, may come before one’s relationship. If it does and continues to do so, the marriage will eventually suffer and die.

If you or your partner say excuses like, “I am too busy” at every moment, and the important events between you and your partner is postponed very often, one will become more distant from one’s partner and it will be very hard to keep a strong relationship.

It is with a heavy heart that we informed her, “We are so sorry, but let's make an appointment when you are truly ready to have a relationship and marriage. Good luck on your business.”

By the way, she is a doctor who is over fifty years old and single never married. I understand it is hard to make time to think about her own happiness since she is contributing to her patients everyday.(Her profile was already removed from our member page.)

WHAT I AM GOING TO SAY NEXT IS VERY IMPORTANT!!! I really believe women and men should place a higher priority on love and marriage than on a successful career. I have seen many women who are totally focused on their career, have become very successful, and are in their late 40's or over 50's. And they come to our office and knock on the door and say, “I want to find a happy marriage, and I need your help!” I do not think it is too late, but each passing day makes it more difficult for them to find their ideal partner since most men want to meet younger women.

Think of it this way. When you are dying on your death bed, would you rather look back on life and be thankful for a successful career or would you be thankful for being in a wonderful, loving relationship with your husband or wife???!!! Life is really that simple! Whatever, we put most of our efforts into each and every day is what we become and what our lives become. So, if I spend most of my day working and thinking about my career, my life becomes a working life devoted to my job. If I spend most of my day with my partner or thinking about and totally committed to my partner, my life becomes rich with love and fulfillment with my partner that will last a lifetime. A job can end tomorrow for any reason. A devoted relationship will enrich one’s life much more than any job. However, a relationship takes daily attention or it will wilt and die like a neglected, thirsty flower forgotten by its owner.

So, I tell all my members, “Stop what you are doing right now. Take a deep breath and exhale. Say out loud that you are making a complete commitment to finding your life’s partner in this instant and nothing will change this commitment to yourself. Write this commitment in large letters on a piece of paper and attach it to your bedroom wall where you will wake up and see it every morning and before going to bed at night. Say, “I want a wonderful, loving relationship and marriage now!” out loud and to yourself many times a day. By placing this commitment to creating a fabulous relationship at the top of your to do list, you will be creating affirmative action that will make it happen. That is the secret to life!”

If you don’t act now, life will simply pass you by!!!
 

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Special Meeting with Naoko in Tokyo

I visited Japan Nov. 3-19, 2012. Every time I visit Japan, I plan a meeting with our members. At this meeting, about 14 people attended and met with me at a restaurant in Tokyo, and I had a nice time with everyone. Thank you!!!

At this meeting, we were honored to have as special guests:

1) A hot couple who just got married.
2) A former male member (a Canadian man) who is a father of a little girl.

3) One of our female members who will get married in Japan next month.

Additionally, two of our male trial members (American men) who live in Tokyo and Kanagawa and eight full female full members took part in our meeting.

I think that talking and eating while mingling at a meeting at a restaurant like this is in some ways better than a one on one meeting since there is less tension or expectations and more opportunities to see people’s natural personality.

The Canadian man who used to be our member sometimes joins our events since he and his wife live in Japan. His wife didn't attend this time since she was at home with their daughter. It has been more than three years since they got married, and they look so happy with their little one. He shared his wonderful marriage life with our members. Thank you!

He also announced party info which will be held in Canadian embassy in Tokyo next month. Some of our female members who heard this info were excited about attending the party.

Here is some feedback from our special meeting.

-----------------<  From Here >-------------------

Dear Naoko,

Thank you for inviting today!
I enjoyed very much.

Naoko san looked sliter than I imagine, but you are so charming.

It was nice to see other members and had given encouragement.

After the meeting, some of us still enjoy talking at the different cafe.

Anyway, I wanted to say thank you.

(N from Tokyo)

-----------------<  End >-------------------

Thank you N- san!

I am often told that I am short actually.

However I am powerful!!!

Here is another message from one of our male members.

-----------------<  From Here >-------------------

Good morning (Ohayo) Naoko and everyone!

Thank you for a wonderful dinner gathering last night. I had a very, very good time. 

All of the ladies that I met last night were very nice and fascinating people. 

I would like to become a full member so I can contact them.

（D from Kanagawa）

-----------------<  End >-------------------

He looked handsome, and all of our female members said that meeting with him in persona was a lot better than seeing his photos in his profile!

Also, by talking with him we all felt his warm and friendly personality.

He works in Japan and we know he has a lot of friends in Japan, so I asked him to introduce his friends to our service after he finds his miss right.

Friendly people connect to one another in a friendly circle, and this is a great way to connect with other nice people. This is the law of attraction.

-----------------<  From Here >-------------------

Dear Naoko san.

Thank you for having me at the meeting yesterday!

I was so inspired your powerful personality.
You really produce happy couple, and it was good to see you and I absorbed your power from you!!!

It was good to spend time with other attendees, And we exchanged information in order to succeed in finding a happy marriage.

I thought that I should not just wait for a Mr. right, and I decided to take more action in order to find my own happiness.

Anyway, I would like to go to the party in Canadian Embassy!!!

（A from Tokyo）

-----------------< End >-------------------



Thank you A- san.

Attending the meeting might have been her breakthrough although she was struggling with her correspondence with one of our male members.

During the period in searching for her Mr. Right, meeting with other people instead of corresponding with only one guy can be a good experience to see who is the most suitable for her. She can also reflect back on herself to better know who she is as a person.

A hot couple, a female member who will be married next month, and a Canadian papa, also shared their happiness with our single members, and everyone received their happy aura. I am sure their happiness will come soon because of this learning experience.

By attending our special meetings, members will have opportunities that they did not expect and can change their lives tremendously. It is called serendipity. And people who use their serendipity can make their dreams come true easily.

If you really want to find your life partner, take action, use the skill of serendipity. MJL's next special meeting in Japan takes place during the middle of January. Luna will be a host. We will announce the detail in our blog and newsletter. I expect many people will attend so sign up early before space runs out!!!

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Don’t Use Copy & Paste If You Really Want to Attract A Woman

When you initially send a contact request to our female members, you have to care about your own message.

Some people write a short and simple message, and they copy and paste it and send to as many women as possible.

I am surprised that this is very common.

At first glance, this practice may appear to be a very effective way to contact many women in a short amount of time. However, women are not stupid and they usually can tell if your message was written specifically for them with your own honest words, or if this is just another mass emailing letter. Obviously, when someone receives a mass email letter they will not read it kindly and may not reply since it is obvious that the sender does not really care about her.



“He that shoots oft at last shall hit the mark.”
This saying doesn't exist if you really would like to meet your miss right.


Women who receive your simple and short copy and pasted message can easily tell, “He sent the same message, which I have received, to other women anyway.”


So, if you find a woman whom you would like to start communicating with the best approach is to read her profile with special attention, and write to her with your own words expressing empathy or compassion in her profile.

“The words in your profile were so impressive to me!!!”

Like above, if you give her one special sentence in your first message, she will feel happy since she understands that you have read her profile completely in every detail.



And she will be interested in you and start reading your profile.
“Who is this gentleman?”

And then she and you can start a conversation.



Write to her with your own words taking time to actually think about her. It would be a lot more effective than to just copy and paste.


When your message is personal and meaningful, and speaks to her heart, it will be much more successful.


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The First Thing To Do After She Accepts Your Proposal

After she accepts your proposal, you must think about how she will relocate to your country. And, how will she obtain her visa? What kind of visa will she need? How can you support her financially and emotionally? Moving to a new country is a huge endeavor.

If she needs to relocate to your country, she has to first start obtaining an immigration visa from the immigration office in your country.

Generally, the visa options you need to learn about is as follows in the US.
http://travel.state.gov/visa/immigrants/types/types_1315.html

1. Fiancé Visa

The visa allows you to bring her to your country as a fiancé, and get married in your country. After you are married, then you can start the application for her Permanent Residence Permission (green card) as your wife.

2. Spouse Visa

This option means that you will get married in Japan. Then you apply for the Spouse Visa and her green card at the same time. After she has been approved for the visa and green card, she is allowed to enter your country as your spouse. This process will most likely take longer than obtaining Fiancé Visa.

Note:
Many people write articles about how to obtain immigration visas on their websites or blogs, however it is not a good idea for people who are not immigration lawyers to give legal advice.

Also, immigration laws are constantly changing and are quite complicated. Therefore, we highly recommend for you to follow reliable sources, such as the government and immigration lawyers instead of someone’s personal opinions.

Some men try to bring their fiancé to their country without a proper visa. They believe that it will be OK if she comes with no visa (with a visa waiver program), and let her stay in your country and then get married, and start applying for a permanent residence permission. Actually, this method used to be a very easy way to obtain a green card, although it is legally a gray zone. However, times have changed so that in a current day worst case scenario, your fiancé would be denied to enter your country in the immigration office at the airport. And, she would not be able to return for many years, thereby delaying being able to live with your fiancé in your country. MJL certainly does not recommend this idea as an option.

After she accepts your proposal, we highly recommend that she obtains a proper visa in order to enter your country without any issues or delays. It may take about 6 months or so to obtain a fiancé visa, and you and she will have to wait at a separate location. However, it is the correct, fair, and safe way for both you and her.

Here is the official site for immigration visas.

US Citizenship and Immigration Service:
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis

UK Border Agency:
http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/britishcitizenship/

Citizenship and Immigration Canada:
http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/

Australian Government Citizenship and Immigration:
http://www.immi.gov.au/

Immigration Bureau of Japan:
http://www.immi-moj.go.jp/english/index.html

This is NOT an official government site, but it is helpful, and you can learn a lot about visas. www.VisaJourney.com

We, MJL, do not provide any legal advice, but we can share the stories of our member couples' experiences. Also, we can suggest immigration lawyers. Please feel free to ask MJL!

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If You Say, “I Want to Marry!” Out Loud, It Will Happen!

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A friend of mine gave me a book titled “I Am Ready to be Happy” by William Rainen written in Japanese. He is a spiritualist in Hawaii, and he is popular in Japan.




Reading this book made me feel warm and calm! Thank you!

There are some parts which relate to marriage relationships, and I was inspired.

Here is a quote from the book. It is written in Japanese, so the translation is paraphrased.

“If you wish to marry someone, when you meet someone, it is important to honestly say to him or her that I am thinking about being married in the future.”


It does not mean that you want marry him or her. He or she has a choice!


It means that I am looking for a lifelong partner and I am not playing with people. It is very important to keep telling people around you about your desire to be married.


If you are seeing someone that you are not interested in and consider just a date or a penpal, and they understand that you are serious, they would most likely not be interested in you. So, by not following this path, you and he/she do not have to waste each other's valuable time.

On the other hand, if they are also seriously looking for a lifelong partner, and they understand your intentions, the relationship might blossom. Even if they are not interested in you, their friends and relatives will learn that you are looking for a happy marriage, and the happiness might come to you through word of mouth.

When I came to the US to study I was 36 years old and most of my classmates in the ESL class were teenagers or in their early 20's. Because of the age difference I was always hanging around my teachers and professors.

Since I always told them that I would like to find a lifelong partner and live in the US, they often introduced me to their friends for me to date. Fortunately, one of my friends introduced me to a man and I had a wonderful time with him in California. Luckily for me, he is now my husband.

This book says that you can create your own life by manifesting your desires. And it is called affirmation.

It means that you can make your dreams come true by expressing your true desires to other people.


If you are looking for a Japanese woman, and you desire a “Happy Marriage”, you can start by telling people around you, and your dream will come true sooner or later.



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