Have You Ever Had a Fateful Meeting?

I received a message from one of our male members. I enjoyed reading it, and I asked him if he didn't mind if I shared it on my blog. He said OK. (Thank you very much.) So, I would like to share his message with you. What do you think?

Hello Naoko,
I have a little bit of time so I can explain what I meant yesterday.　In the past people met either directly, not knowing anything about each　other, or being introduced by friends, matchmakers, etc. The first contact　and the fresh impression was the most important for the connection. Then　they dated in normal life and got to know each other as life goes. Now, with　internet, everything is reversed. We meet and talk on the net, we know too　much about other person before we meet. Women ask sometimes so deep question　about current and past life, life and sexual experiences and preferences,　financial and family status. We simply know too much about each other when　we meet. We expect somebody else than whom we really meet!　My experience now, after so many writings and few meetings, here and in　Japan, is that it does not matter really what we write, it does matter what　and how we do in real life during the meeting. This is so difficult　experience. Specially for people with long past, families, responsibilities,　etc.

What I think, that people living in close areas, should just make contact　using internet and then try to meet right away, before they go into long　description of their life.　That's what I tried to do talking to women located here in Boston or in　general in the East coast area. The drive to New York is just 4 hours. I can　go and come back within one day. I never got any response, even from women　living within Newton area! I do not understand why. We meet strangers all　the time and we talk to them without hesitation, why there is such a big　problem in meeting somebody whom we possibly can fall in love with?　Maybe "match" service should set up a place where people who are interested　can meet and mingle, at least almost local people.　There were such, so called "flash" dates, sometimes ago, it was the best as　everyone said. You talk for 1 minute with a person and you know if you want　talk more. Than you talk in private. Or a small cheese and wine party that　are sometimes organized by local matching services.　In international dating it is more complicated of course. Somebody has to　fly far away. It would be more beneficial if that person could meet　two-three persons of the opposite sex during that time. Of course everybody　would know that there are more than one meeting. Maybe then there would be　no such tension and high expectations, that it is now or never.　In a way webcam can be a replacement. But webcam is a dangerous thing in　itself and people start getting involved into things they shouldn't before　meeting in real life.... I do not want to do such things either.　In one word I have no solution. Do you? But we have to try if we want to　meet Japanese or Thai or Chinese lady and vice-versa, because I do not know　how to find them here.　
With best greetings, (M)