Prenuptial Agreement

As a Japanese woman, one of the most shocking things in the US culture is that some American people make a prenuptial agreement before getting married. Most Japanese people do not understand why they have to think about “divorce matters” before getting married. In my understanding, for a man and a woman, “MARRIAGE” should be the ultimate agreement which lasts forever. Why should a man and a woman get married, if they cannot trust each other? I understand there are many people who lost a substantial portion of their estates when they got divorced, and they believe that a Prenuptial Agreement helps to avoid the worst case scenarios. At least they may protect their property. But to me it sounds like fear and not love.

I never heard about a Prenuptial Agreement while living in Japan. Perhaps, it is not culturally common in Japan. Most Japanese wives to be would most likely feel sad if they were asked to agree to a Prenuptial Agreement because they would feel that there is mistrust and it will never be coped with in their relationship. Since Prenuptial Agreements are not common in Japan, if you are thinking about making a Prenuptial Agreement with your Japanese wife, it would be better to explain that it also protects her life.

My husband and I discussed a Prenuptial Agreement, but we didn’t choose to do it. Instead of a Prenuptial Agreement, we are thinking of going to see a lawyer to create a will which will legally protect both of us and our son forever. Also, I am creating a list of all of my bank accounts’ info, all of my current internet services information, and my Japanese family’s contacts’ information. So my husband will be able to manage them instead of me if something happens to me. This is very important because some of my belongings are still in Japan, and it is good for him to know what I have in JAPAN. For example, if he needs to contact my sister in JAPAN, he can find her phone number and email address from the list easily. Also he can manage all my banks instead of me if something happens to me. My husband also made a list for me to know. I believe that the will and the list help us to create a strong relationship instead of making a Prenuptial Agreement. We trust each other, so that there is no secret between my husband and me.





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Commitment

A gentleman in Texas was introduced to one of our female members who became a member last July. Soon after they started corresponding, they started an intense courtship and have been thinking constantly of each other. They have been chatting by skype or email more than three times a day. I am glad to hear that their relationship is fitting stronger, and now they are in an exclusive relationship, which means that they changed their membership status, so nobody else can contact them.

Their courtship lasted about a month which is the shortest time we have had at MJL. When a man and a woman are really serious about getting married and they meet the right person, their relationship moves quickly.

On the other hand, there are some couples who have been corresponding with each other for more than one year. I wonder what will allow these gentlemen to make a commitment. Whatever the reasons are, it would be nice to discuss with her about your visit to Japan when you feel the relationship with her is fulfilled.

Japanese women tend to be very loyal and wait for men’s commitment for a long time. I don’t want our female members to be like “Madam Butterfly”. Life is short! So, I want our male members to show their commitment and visit Japan if the relationship is great! Or if you do not want to go toward the next step with her, it would be better to let her know your decision now, so that she may get introduced to other guys.

The point is that if you are serious about forming a relationship with a Japanese woman, getting married within a responsible amount of time is something to look forward to.



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