Online Dating, Do I Choose Quantity or Quality?

Many people who get used to using online dating services probably think meeting someone online is easy. They might think if they lose interest in one person after chatting or a short communication, it is easy to seek someone new. Many people believe the saying of “Even a poor shot will hit the mark (eventually) if he tries often enough.” However, can a person really find someone special by meeting many people?

There is a Japanese traditional saying “Ichi Go Ichi E”. Here is the link: http://bit.ly/XKUY9 . “Ichi Go Ichi E” is Zen Word which means, “Value the person you meet in this moment, for he or she is certainly intended for you”.

As a matchmaker, I always tell our members to take the time to see your match deeply. Find out his or her inner beauty. Think about why you chose her, or why you are chosen by her. Think about “Ichi Go Ichi E”. Meeting someone on this planet at this moment is an amazing opportunity and is a miracle since you and she were selected to be a couple from the billions of people on the planet.

I definitely want all of our members to think more about Quality instead of Quantity. When you focus on creating a Quality Life with someone special, you will achieve your goal of a happy marriage.

All of our members who got happily married were following the “Ichi Go Ichi E” method. 

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The More Selections You Have, The More Difficult to Choose

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pq5jnM1C-A

Here is a lecture titled: Art of Choosing by Sheena Iyengar.

In her study, 
she has found that it is difficult for people to choose when there are too many choices. 

I agree with this study, and have seen the same dynamics play out with men & women who want to meet many candidates, but ultimately cannot make any decision on choosing a partner. And, on the opposite perspective, men & women who want to meet a few nice candidates quickly meet a partner and decide to marry. In our 15 years of business experience of matchmaking service, this is typically what happens. 

I think this video will help you understand the science of choosing.

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Romance Scammers

Do you know about the phrase “Romance Scammer”?
They sneak around online dating sites pretending to be a person who is looking for a partner. However, their purpose is not to find sincere love, rather they are looking for money and/or sex. They use somebody else’s photos, and their profiles are all fake.
We have many applications from male members all over the world every day. Unfortunately, some of the applicants are detected as romance scammers. We at MJL place a high priority of having high standards for our members in order to provide our members with a top quality experience with the best results, and to keep everyone safe.

In order to protect our clients, we screen each applicant carefully. This is why some people say that MJL's qualifications are too strict or the documents that MJL requires are too personal. However, we believe that screening our male clients by requiring certain documents is the best way to ascertain who the qualified applicants are and who are not since all transactions are done through the internet.

Fortunately, we have never had any major issues with false identities of our members since we started our matchmaking company in 1999. I think it is because of our unique system where we require male members to visit Japan to meet our female clients for their first meeting. Male members have to spend a lot of time and money for one visit. And usually, one of our staff members attends the meeting. For romance scammers, becoming a member of MJL does not make sense for them since the costs and time involved are too high. 

On the other hand, we require all our female members to visit our Tokyo office before signing up for Full Membership. They come to our office in Tokyo even though they may live as far away as Okinawa or Hokkaido and they have an interview with our staff, and sometimes their conversations last for more than 3 hours! Romance scammers would not make this much effort or take this much risk to visit our office and meet with our staff. Up to this time, we have never had a female applicant romance scammer!

We have heard from some of our male clients of how they were victims of international dating and marriage fraud in other Asian countries when using other dating websites or marriage agencies.

If you google “romance scammer”, you will see examples of these scams. 
One important lesson to keep in mind in order to avoid being scammed is to never send someone money if you have never met them in person. Some people may feel that he or she truly knows or trusts someone after corresponding with him or her through the internet over a long period of time, but you will only really know a person when you actually meet him or her in person.

I hope all people who are looking for their ideal partners are careful for their safety.
MJL only welcomes clients who are looking for sincere love and happy marriage!

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Japanese Women are Afraid of Free Online Dating, and They are Looking for Safer Sites

Many of our new Japanese female members have visited our office stating how they became very frightened about online dating after hearing about this news story. Have you heard about the murder of a Japanese woman in San Diego in 2007? Her dead body was found in a desert outside San Diego, and her husband was investigated as a suspect. Please watch the video of the news report:

http://www.10news.com/news/29175252/detail.html



They met through a free dating website. According to the news report, he was still a member of a free dating website after his wife’s death.

I do not want to alarm you, but I want you to be careful and take precautions with online dating since there are inherent risks. Men can also be a victim.

This other piece of news from Tokyo shocked many Japanese people. A Japanese woman killed three men whom she met through the internet.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-17702029

Is Free Online Dating Safe?
MJL requires all applicants to our service to pay a membership fee in order to become a full member. There is a very important distinction between a paid relationship service and a free dating website. With a free dating website, anybody can apply, and there is a higher likelihood that people with lower character or questionable motives will join since there are no membership requirements and no screening. If you are a member of a free online dating site, you have to be very careful about the people who ask you on a date because he/she might have hidden reasons for dating, like money, sex, or something else.

However, when it is a paid relationship service, such as MJL, only clients who have a strong commitment to a happy marriage may apply. All of MJL’s members have met our membership requirements and have been screened. So, with MJL, you can rest assured that you are meeting people who meet a higher standard of quality.

MJL’s Unique Secure Screening Process:
We want to reassure you that MJL is not an online dating website, even though we use the internet to provide some of our service. Rather, MJL is a marriage introduction service. We are always thinking about our clients’ safety, and we care about each client with personal attention. We screen both male and female clients before welcoming them as a member. We feel that our extra attention to our members’ safety ensures all of our members will be able to create secure relationships. We require the following documents in order to become a member of MJL.

MJL's Required Documents for New Applicants:

·       A copy of the most recent Federal Income Tax Report.

·       A copy of the Passport Photo Page. Scan and send it by mail to MJL.

·       Affidavit of Single Status

·       HIV Blood Test performed within the last three months.

·       Completion of Member Agreement Form-01 (Download and Email or Mail)

MJL is Safer Choice for Creating Relationships:
As part of our application process, all of our female full member applicants visit our Tokyo office to interview with one of our staff members.
If they are not able to visit our Tokyo office because of physical reasons, we may setup a Skype meeting instead. Since our male members are located all over the world, we only do Skype interviews for them. We interview all of our new members in order to ensure they meet our membership qualifications and to best understand their needs right from the beginning.

We believe that MJL’s relationship service is very safe when compared with free dating websites since our system is not automated. Rather, we make an extra effort to perform personal screenings and real interviews. Therefore, all of members are able to create happy relationships in peaceful circles.



Japanese women have good reason to be afraid of free dating websites. However, wiser Japanese women will choose MJL for their relationship needs when they understand that we provide a higher level of safety for our members.

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Online Dating: Best to Check Each Other’s' Medical Records Before Making Love

When I first my started online dating service 10 years ago, the first thing I thought that was important for our members was to exchange their medical records, especially regarding sexually transmitted diseases (STV’s), such as HIV and hepatitis. Currently, we require our members to exchange their Medical Records before their first meeting in JAPAN.

Having a HIV test performed was not very popular in Japan 10 years ago since most Japanese people believed that they had no problem. However, recently, more and more people are joining online dating sites and people are traveling globally to meet their dates in person. Meeting someone internationally is getting easier, and there is a freedom in making love globally. However, when falling in love, people often forget about STV’s. As a result, there can be serious consequences if you or your date gets a STV. And then the question is who will take responsibility for the consequences?

In order to ensure the utmost safety and satisfaction of our members, we highly recommend and require our members to exchange their medical records, including their STV status, before being in an intimate relationship with your dates. As stated in MJL's Membership Guidelines, we require that both our male and female members share with each other their current medical records, including their STV report. I believe sharing this critical information is a MUST DO etiquette for people who are seeking their special one globally.


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