Congratulations! – Miracle Making is My Mission!

“We had a baby boy!!!”

MJL's staff member, Luna Watanabe send us a text message
from the hospital on June 17th.

I am happy to hear that her baby and she are fine.

Congratulations!

As a mother myself, I feel the miracle of a newborn baby.
It is so precious and so special!

She experienced a caesarian operation which is harmful for women. However, she is supposed to go home this Wednesday even though her body has not completely healed.

Regarding baby births, there is a big difference between the US and Japan.

I remember the experience of my baby’s birth in a US hospital. I was kicked out of the hospital two days after his birth even though I had too much pain to walk. The food at the hospital was not so good. It was a cold pizza and weird colored jello. I didn't have any desire to eat this food since I didn't think the food had any nutrition.

In my opinion, the experience of a baby birth in the US forces Japanese women to be tough. Life in the US is a lot tougher than in Japan. Therefore, I have become a tough woman now.

In Japan, a baby birth is more respectful for women. People around a new mom support her with special assistance before and after her baby’s birth.

In Japan, a new mom can stay in the hospital for at least seven days in order to allow time for her body to heal. In the hospital, she is treated as if she were a VIP client in a 5 star hotel, and she is fed a special meal which is designed to give her more nutrition, such as macrobiotics.

After leaving for home with a baby, usually, she stays in her parents’ house for the next couple of months so that she doesn't have to do housework and her parents support their daughter and take care of their grandchild.

I think childbirth in Japan is a better experience since it is one of life’s biggest events and childbirth is very hard for all women. Men may have a hard time understanding how difficult it is.

FYI, Japanese government provides about $4000 when baby is born, and they pay for each child over $100 per month until a child 10^th grade.　This is a Japanese government’s project for halting the declining birthrate.

Luna was lucky that her mom came to the US a few weeks earlier in order to take care of her daughter's first childbirth. Before then Luna was considering having a baby birth in Japan because of the better hospital service in Japan. I think if she prefers, her husband should accept it and think about how she would feel most comfortable spending her pregnancy, childbirth, and post childbirth time.

Anyway, congratulations!

Luna used to be a member of MJL. Through MJL’s service, she found a nice American husband and they got married. And now they made their dream of having a baby come true!


I feel miracles happening all around me. As a matchmaker, I am proud of assisting in the creation of happy families. I enjoy my life’s work. And I believe that this is one of my missions in life which is given by God.



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Japanese Women Experiences True Love for First Time

In early June, one of our male clients spent 2 wonderful weeks visiting one of our female clients in Japan. He just returned home to the east coast of the US.

Miyata at our office reported as follows.

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Mr. M from Rhode Island just returned to the US.
Miss N gave me a call and said that she had a happy time with him.

She said that she had never ever experienced being treated so wonderfully.

He was so kind and gentle.
She felt his love for her, and she loves him too.

She would like to take time off from work to visit him in the US as soon as possible.

There is a direct flight between Boston and Narita, Japan.

So, she is planning her trip to the US right now.

Miyata@ TokyoOffice
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I am happy to hear that they had a wonderful time together in Japan.

The phrase,

“She experienced the most love ever in her life”,

is so impressive to me.

The key to their success is that he visited Japan to meet with only her.
Some men think it’s better to meet with more than one woman. However, from my matchmaking experience, meeting with only one female client works best for bringing their relationship level toward the next stage.

We haven't received his feedback yet, however, we are sure his feedback will be super positive with happy comments!

I am happy for their new found love!

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Japanese Women are Too Shy to Talk about Sex

Western men should be careful when talking about sex to Japanese women, because of the difference in culture between Japan and western countries.

Most of our female members feel uncomfortable when you start talking about sex with them. Especially, if you have never met her and you write about sex in an email with one of our female members. They feel that it is a kind of a sexual harassment.

I am asked by our female members many times, “What should I do.” They feel scared and pressured because most of our female members believe if they tell him, “I feel uncomfortable” or “Please stop talking like that”, they will be disliked by him. They don’t want to lose him.

As a professional matchmaker, I advise all our male clients that it would be better for them to correspond with our female clients without sexual words if you have never met her.

It creates unnecessary pressure for her. And, you might lose her before you are able to meet with her if she feels uncomfortable from your words.

After you meet with her, and continue corresponding with her, over time you will develop a deeper and more intimate relationship with her, talking about sex will become less of a taboo.

If you are care about your Japanese girlfriend, it would be better to wait for a while until she is ready to talk about sex with you.


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Luna Watanabe: MJL's New Personal Matchmaker

Luna Watanabe

International Matchmaking Adviser

After studying jazz vocal at USC, she first started her career as a vocalist and a vocal instructor in Japan. While pursuing her career, she realized that she hadn’t yet started to pursue her another dream, which was having her own family. In 2007, she started her journey of searching a lifetime partner worldwide and met an American man in 2009. After having a long distance relationship for about 2.5 years, she moved to the U.S. with fiancée visa and got married in 2011.

While she was on her way of searching a lifetime partner, she began to receive messages asking for her advice from some Japanese women who were also searching for their future partners abroad.

Through her experiences of searching for a partner, she has realized the importance of finding out what should be the priority in order to have a truly happy marriage and what kind of person you need as your best partner. Moreover, she has realized that there are things you really should know before it gets too late when you are about to get married to someone. (she has an experience of mental abuse from her ex boyfriend)

She’s trying her best to help and support people based on her experiences so that they would succeed in finding their international partners.

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Japanese Women Should Stand up and Say “NO” If It Is NOT Correct

Here is the “Oppai Pudding” which is the pudding shaped like a woman’s breast. “Oppai Pudding” is sold in Japan as a gift. You can buy everywhere in Japan at the gift shop in a major train station since they have many different version such as Oppai Pudding Tokyo, Yokohama, Osaka, Niigata and so on. http://item.rakuten.co.jp/miyage-chaya/1027316/ It costs about $5 for two pudding and it is reasonable price. Some people say the taste is good!

When I talked about it to one of our male members a couple years ago,
he was a pious religious man, he got angrily to say,
”Why Japanese women do not complain about it?”
“This is totally rude and disrespectful to women.”
I was embarrassed since his reaction was not what I predicted and I agreed with his word. Most of Japanese women get used to be looked down on from others. I introduced about the word “GUSAI”  and I understand that Japanese women usually accept that their position in the Japanese society is lower than Japanese men.
If it works to keep their social structure peaceful and harmonious they feel that would be no problem.
Regarding an “Oppai Pudding”, most of Japanese people don't care because it is just a joking. If it makes people laugh and fun, that would be wonderful for Japanese people.
However, if someone sells the Oppai Pudding in the western countries, women must standup and marching around the government building or sue to the company which produced “Oppai Pudding”.
Unfortunately, Japanese women wouldn't do like western women. They just laugh and feel that it would be just a little thing which is too stupid to talk.
If Japanese women would like to live in the western country, they should stand up and say “NO” if they feel it is NOT correct. That would be the way to survive and thrive in the western countries.

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Show Affection of Your Japanese Wife/Girlfriend

http://www.youtube.com/embed/92qVxfdv4J0

When my husband, our son, and I were invited to my brother's wedding last March, we flew to Japan and enjoyed having a wonderful time with my family and relatives. A couple of days after, I received some photos which were taken at the wedding ceremony. My sister told me amazingly,

“Your husband told me, you are beautiful.”

I said, “That’s wonderful”.

I understand why my sister was surprised. In Japan, it is rare that a husband proudly introduces his wife to others with the words, “My wife is beautiful.” Probably, she has never heard her husband say, “You are beautiful”, in front of other people. If so, he would be embarrassed.

This is because of Japanese culture. In Japan, when talking with others, they make themselves lower position and show others that they look up to others. Even though you have a beautiful wife, they do not believe that being proud of this fact is polite to others.

There is a word “GUSAI” which means “stupid wife”. Of course, when I checked the word “GUSAI” in a JAPANESE-ENGLISH dictionary, I never found the exact translation of “GUSAI” in English since the word does not exist. However, Japanese men talk like my stupid wife bla bla bla ... and Japanese wives usually don’t protest being called this term! I think that Japanese wives do not protest being called this term is stupid, disrespectful and very unfortunate.

Anyway, I felt happy to hear that my husband told my sister his honest feeling. I think Japanese women will also feel happy when their husbands or boyfriends tell her, “You are beautiful”. One of the main reasons some Japanese women prefer western men as a lifelong partner is because they will express their affection and feelings more than typical Japanese men would.

This YOUTUBE link shows the song, “Wonderful Tonight”, covered by Begin, an Okinawan band in Japan. The music is arranged as an Okinawan version. I hope you enjoy!

I like the dialogue of the couple in this song. Before they go to a party, she asks him, “Do I look alright?”, and he replies, “Yes, you look wonderful tonight”. I feel that he is always caring for her with his abundant love.

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What Are Your Three Most Favorite Romantic Movies of All Time?

“What are your three most favorite romantic movies of all time?”

This is a great question to ask your Japanese girlfriend or wife.

Most of our international couples do long distance correspondence, and it is not easy to see each other very often.

So, if you ask her what her most favorite romantic movies are, you guys can watch them individually and share your feelings with her even though there is more than 5000 miles distance between you and her.

Asking about this question also helps her to know your feelings about romance and about her, since she can imagine as if she were a heroine and you were a hero in the movie.

My husband and I selected his and mine favorite romantic movies, and we watch them on the weekends. This is a great time to cuddle! Thank you Netflix!!!

My favorite romantic movie is “New Cinema Paradise”, an Italian movie. I first watched it when I was a teenager and it still remains in my heart.

My husband's favorite romantic movie is “The Last of the Mohicans”. Regarding the title, I am wondering if it is really a romantic movie, but I am looking forward to watching it next time!

What are your favorite romantic movies? Please share them with us too!

The 50 most romantic movies of all time
http://www.timeout.com/newyork/film/the-50-most-romantic-movies-of-all-time

Naoko Matsumoto / CEO  and Your Personal Matchmaker

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