Why Old Fashioned Communication Methods Are Better Than Modern Digital Communication Methods For Creating Meaningful Relationships

One day, my mother in law said with sorrow,

“No one has called me recently.”

She explained that most of her friends use FACEBOOK now as a communication tool. And, since they communicate via FACEBOOK, they tend not to call each other.

This is an issue for my mother in law since she is not good at using a computer and she doesn't know how to use the Facebook. She feels isolated because she cannot communicate easily and personally with her friends by talking on the phone as she used to do. Everyone is too busy to call!


Actually, FACEBOOK is one of the greatest internet communication tools, since it enables people from any location around the world to communicate easily and cheaply. But quicker and easier communication does not necessarily translate into building meaningful or personal relationships, especially for local friends who live nearby. So, ironically, the more computer technology is developed, the new internet communication paradigm has made it harder in many ways for people to enjoy a social life with real friends.

Like my mother in law, many people are victims of FACEBOOK nowadays, and many people are forgetting the values of direct and personal communication on the phone or face to face which they used to have.


If you are seriously looking for a Japanese wife, I highly recommend the following ways of communication with Japanese women instead of just sending a few digital words instantly. You may feel these methods may be too old fashioned, but these methods offer more effective ways of developing your relationships.

SENDING A HANDWRITTEN LETTER
Instead of sending 10 short sentenced digital messages with your computer, it would be 10 times more effective to send one handwritten letter to your love. A personal, handwritten letter shows that you truly care and allows for a more personal message and artwork that she will really treasure and warm her spirit. It may take more than an hour to write and 7 days to reach her but it is well worth the effort.

Also, it is a good idea to select beautifully designed stamps for the person whom you are writing to, and place them on the envelope while thinking of her. She will appreciate the personal touch!

TALKING ON SKYPE AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK
There is a time difference, but you and she can setup a regular time and day to talk on Skype. As you listen to her real voice, you can more easily sense how she really feels from the tone of her voice. That's more valuable than exchanging emails.

MEETING IN PERSON
If you live in an area close to where she lives, you can see her without a lot of effort. It is nice to chit chat at a cafe and invite her to your house. Most of our members live far apart since she lives in Japan and you live in the US, and you cannot see her very often. I suggest that you make an effort to meet her in person when you are able to visit Japan. And, you can also invite her to visit you in the US. Either way is fine. The important thing is making the effort. Meeting face to face with her is very valuable and it is necessary in building a strong relationship and for creating a “marriage”.


Digital communication tools are just efficient tools that help in many ways, but we must not rely on them solely as some of the old fashioned methods are just as valuable. If you are seriously building your relationship, using old fashioned communication methods may be even more important than modern methods since the old fashioned ways allow one to communicate more personally, thereby creating a more meaningful and closer relationship. And, the old fashioned ways will bring you happiness easier, quicker, and deeper than you might expect.





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If you are looking for a Japanese Wife and a Happy Marriage, Don't Go to Roppongi!

Today, a woman visited our Tokyo office for an interview. She is 35 years old looking for a rich and young Caucasian man with blond hair.

She goes to Roppongi (nightlife center of Tokyo) on the weekends looking for GAIJIN men, which means foreign men in Japanese.

Miyata at MJL's Tokyo office wisely advised her to not search for a man in Roppongi.

He said, GAIJIN MEN in Roppongi are not looking for marriage since Roppongi is the place to play.

She answered:

I know, but there must be a chance to meet a nice GAIJIN guy.

Also, she has brown hair. Miyata advised her that it would be better to revert back to her natural long, black hair since most foreign men prefer traditional Japanese women with long, black hair.

She answered:

I don't think so. It doesn't matter.

Actually, the real issue was not whether she had black or brown hair, rather her attitude was not open to new ideas. She did not want to face to her interviewer, nor listen to him.

She said she tried one of the biggest online dating sites in Japan, and she has met six foreign men before. However, she felt that they were not actually the persons whom she browsed on their profiles. So she canceled her membership. Although there are rich men with blond hair on those kinds of online dating sites, they will eventually figure out that she is a kind of a gold digger when they meet with her in person. That's what Miyata felt.

This interview was “a waste of time”.

Miyata reported that this woman was immature and we cannot accept her as our member. She appears to just be playing. And, I agreed with his decision. MJL accepts only male and female members who meet our membership criteria, thereby ensuring a high quality service for our members.

I think there are many Japanese women like her who go to the Roppongi area to look for GAIJIN guys. However, since Roppongi is one of the places in TOKYO where GAIJIN men gather to play with Japanese women. Both men and women who go to the Roppongi area are generally not looking for a quality relationship, let alone a happy marriage.

Therefore, if you are searching for a happy marriage with a traditional Japanese woman, we do not recommend going to Roppongi. Instead of wasting your time looking for love in the wrong places, spend your time more wisely by using MJL’s marriage introduction service. MJL specializes in forming happy, long term relationships with Japanese women and western men.

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Japanese People Are Honest!

Yesterday, one of our male members from Los Angeles visited Japan to meet with one of MJL’s female members whom he has been corresponding with.

It was his first experience visiting Japan, so he was very excited since everything was new for him.
He was so surprised when he took a taxi to the meeting place from his hotel and he gave the taxi driver a tip, but the driver politely refused his tip.

In Japan, there is no tip custom, so it is not necessary to tip taxi drivers, hotel maids, or waitresses at restaurants.
In Japan, good service is not based on money. Japanese people are taught that customers should be treated as a god. Japanese people are satisfied when customers are satisfied with their service.


You may think the taxi driver should have received a tip if the customer wanted to pay.
How honest Japanese people are!
This story is a good illustration of the Japanese culture’s generous spirit, and I am proud of the taxi driver.


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Happy New Year 2012

あけましておめでとうございます。
Akemashite Omedeto Gozaimasu

How is your New Year 2012?
Did you go to a New Year’s Eve party?

In Japan, people spend time with their family during the New Year’s Eve and Day like American families do during the thanksgiving holiday in the US. Since I live in the US, it is not easy to go back to Japan every new year, however, I talked with my family on skype today to say AKEMASHITE OMEDETO GOZAIMASU, a New Year greeting for my family.

Skype is convenient, and I feel as if I was with my family! Thank you skype!

Usually, in Japan, food for the New Year holiday is specially prepared by the end of December. The special food for the New Year holiday is called OSECHI, and it is like a big bento box which has multi-layered boxes within it. Also, in Japan, people eat OZOHNI – Soup with pieces of MOCHI, sticky rice cakes.

For the three days from January 1st to 3rd, Japanese people eat OSECH and OZOHNI, so that mom does not have to work but can relax. This is traditional Japanese food culture and I miss OSECHI!

One of MJL’s married couples, who married in 2011, let us know that the wife would make OSECHI for her husband and his family for the New Year 2012. It was NOT easy to find specific ingredients in the US, however, she said she did! I am surprised since she and her family live in Minnesota, and I imagine there are not many Japanese supermarkets there. But she did, and I am proud of her as a Japanese woman because she is introducing a Japanese food culture to her US family.


Anyway, if you find a Japanese wife, you will enjoy Japanese traditional food culture with her, and it makes your life more colorful.


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